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Old 27th November 2006, 5:17 PM   #1
mannette
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Question He says he needs time to figure things out...

Hi, So, I've been dating this guy for two months. We've been seeing each other progressively. Currently e are at 3 times a week. We've been as open and honest with each other about many things. Recently he has pulled away from me. I asked him what was wrong with him and why he's pulled away and he told me it's work, it's his ex, and it's that he's realizing he needs to get rid of his baggage. He told me about his ex the second week we started seeing each other. She still calls him on occasion and is still hung up on him. They use to be best friends first and then dated each other. They had a rocky relationship. He finally ended it in May. Recently her grandma died and she's threatening suicide. He told me that he told her about me and I think this is where the suicidal thing kicks in. Anyhow, he says he needs to figure out what he wants. He's torn b/w his past two relationships. One was sexual but not emotional and the other was the opposite.
He says that he still wants to see me like we have been but, needs to work through these issues. He told me that he's going to be reserving his emotions until he figures things out and that I should do the same...
I get that he was probably starting to fall for me and then freaked out. But what I'm not sure of is if his ex is the main factor here. I had asked several weeks ago if he would consider getting back with her and he said no because he's not physically attracted to her and they have a laundry list of issues.
HELP...I'm confused...
I'm thinking the next time he calls that we see each other and I tell him that I can't be with someone who doesn't know what he wants OR should I give him some time without bringing anything up until he does and still see him???
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