[VenusDeMilo]

Ok... so last year, I became friends with this group of guys. I was flirting with "Guy A" when we first met, however, we've become good friends since then and call each other whenever we have guy/girl problems. "Guy B" is his best friend whom I've had a little crush on but thought was out of my league. We flirted on a drunken night, but since he lives a couple hours away, we never really pursued anything.

A week ago, I hung out with "Guy A" and the rest of our friends. To make a long story short, we ended up making out. We were both drinking. We talked about it the next day. He's in love with this girl blah blah blah.

A couple days later I found out that his "Guy B" was coming into town. I know this is so childish but on myspace, he posted a bulletin saying he'll be in town and to message him if anyone wants to hang out. He then changed his default picture to a picture of him and I. I started freaking out. I talked to "Guy A" and joked around with him a bit with the idea of hooking up with one of his friends. He said that he wouldn't mind hooking me up with anyone but it would be "weird" if it were one of his best friends... and he named "Guy B."

Well... since we're all friends with friends, "Guy B" and I decided to hang out a couple nights ago with our group. He was very shy in the beginning but started warming up a bit to my flirting. We're going to hang out with everyone again tomorrow. It's hard to tell if he's into me because he's so shy. That next morning, I woke up to a message from him on my computer asking for pictures from the night before. He ended up changing his default picture on MySpace again to the new picture of him and I. I freaked out again.

I don't think that "Guy A" has told him that we made out yet. If he does... or when he does... will my chances with "Guy B" go completely out the window since they're best friends? I think I could really like "Guy B" but I don't want to step on any toes or ruin the dynamic of our group. Can I get "Guy B" to like me enough not to care about the drunken making out episode?

Help!

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Originally Posted by VenusDeMilo

Ok... so last year, I became friends with this group of guys. I was flirting with "Guy A" when we first met, however, we've become good friends since then and call each other whenever we have guy/girl problems.

Men and women use this tactic to get closer to people they'd like to bed. Kinda puts a blur on the wole situation dudnit? His intentions were probably not honorable. He lied to himself and you long enough to start believing it... are youinnocent of using this tactic? Carefully think through YOUR feelings too.



but I know nothing,
MA

[VenusDeMilo]

I have no feelings for this guy whatsoever. I thought he was cute at first but after getting to know him, realized that there was nothing there. I thought we were really "friends" which is why I gave him advice.

I'm so upset thinking that I've lost chances with the other guy because I had a drunken moment.

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Originally Posted by VenusDeMilo

I have no feelings for this guy whatsoever. I thought he was cute at first but after getting to know him, realized that there was nothing there. I thought we were really "friends" which is why I gave him advice.

I'm so upset thinking that I've lost chances with the other guy because I had a drunken moment.

Alcohol reduces your natural inhibitions, and enables you to allow yourself to do what you normally would not do sober. You obviously like the guy alot - He's nice, probably good looking, and available. So you aren't in love with him, the guilt could mean that you enjoyed it, and that's A-okay! It feels good!

But the other fella whom you have your eye on, You guys just need to talk it out. Maybe he doesn't want to freak out his friend, my he's a little troubled about other things... you can't know unless it's out in the open. Be brave, and just come from the heart that it happened and was a mistake.