how to ask for a seperation

rcharmed · 15th November 2006, 9:53 PM

I have been married for 29 years and we have been in the lifestyle(swingers) for almost 7 months.My husband and I have had some trouble last year concerning a woman with him we when to a consular for 9 months and I think now that of I felt that I had somewhere to have gone I would have left.I love my husband but I am not in love with him anymore I want him to be happy,but when he is kissing or what ever else with other women I don't even get jealous any more.I have been seeing a guy and my husband knows about him(he is not in the lifestyle)and I am very much in love with him.Also I got married when I was 17 and he was 18 and I was months pregnant.I want to ask for a separation but neither me or him could afford to move out.I also need a suggestion on how to ask for a separation.

rcharmed · 15th November 2006, 9:59 PM

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Originally Posted by rcharmed

I have been married for 29 years and we have been in the lifestyle(swingers) for almost 7 months.My husband and I have had some trouble last year concerning a woman with him we when to a consular for 9 months and I think now that of I felt that I had somewhere to have gone I would have left.I love my husband but I am not in love with him anymore I want him to be happy,but when he is kissing or what ever else with other women I don't even get jealous any more.I have been seeing a guy and my husband knows about him(he is not in the lifestyle)and I am very much in love with him.Also I got married when I was 17 and he was 18 and I was months pregnant.I want to ask for a separation but neither me or him could afford to move out.I also need a suggestion on how to ask for a separation.

help needed

Moose · 15th November 2006, 10:02 PM

Is this a code or something?

Let me see....married 29 years, married at 17, that makes you 46.

In, "swinger mode" for 7 months, but in counseling for 9?

This guy you're seeing, did you meet him or were involved with him in direct result of this lifestyle?

There's a lot missing here....

rcharmed · 15th November 2006, 10:09 PM

I knew this guy for a long time off and on and so does my husband and no I did not meet him in the swinger mode and the counseling were last year.

FlyingHigh · 15th November 2006, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by rcharmed

.I want to ask for a separation but neither me or him could afford to move out.I also need a suggestion on how to ask for a separation.

How about getting a second job? Xmas is around the corner. If single mothers can juggle jobs, laundry, kids, exes, why can't you?

Why bother asking for a seperation? Just come out and tell the truth that you want a seperation.

dgiirl · 16th November 2006, 9:05 AM

Whatever you do, do NOT get angry or defensive and tell him all the things you hate about him.

Why are you guys into swingers? Is this something you believe in, or something he wanted you two to do?

lisapizza · 16th November 2006, 1:06 PM

I'm sorry and don't take offense to this but....I can't understand swingers.
Who's idea was this, maybe you're so co dependant that he talked you into this??

There is too much info missing to even try to give advice.
All I can say is you (both) need counseling.....

rcharmed · 16th November 2006, 7:20 PM

I have a full time job and night school also.He has a on call job.

rcharmed · 16th November 2006, 7:22 PM

No he did not talk me into this I sort of talled him into it.Hopeing he might find someone to be happy with.