What does it usually mean if a man never takes his wife or common-law live in woman out to meet his friends or relatives?

This friend of mine (well ex boyfriend really) has a very peculiar situation going on. His current common-law wife has only ever met his relatives once in three years, and when I was going with him I knew the relatives really well. I still remain good friends with his family and him, but he has never introduced his wife to any of his close friends and doesn't even act like he is married. The family doesn't understand why she never comes over and I am beginning to wonder if there are internal problems going on.

Why do people do this to family? I guess I'm curious to know why he has changed since I was going with him.

i know if it were me, that i would not want to go to my boyfriends house knowing that his ex g'f is still involved with his family. i would feel so uncomfortable, but then that is me.

i think if you understood this that you should exclude yourself from his family from now on. what business do you have anyways going over there and staying friends with his family. i would not tolerate this from my b'f's ex, i would put a stop to it if he didn't.

i would think that you would have enough common sense not to be a part of his family unless you have kids by him, then that is different. maybe she feels uncomfortable knowing that you are still involved with his family and that may make her feel insecure and not want to go.

since you don't know if it is her not wanting to go or him not wanting her to go, i could easily assume that maybe she don't like you being apart of his family. maybe she feels that she would suffer in comparison to his ex, who is still welcomed into his family more so then her.

i think you should butt out of his family and allow her to be the center of their lives, not you!

What does it usually mean if a man never takes his wife or common-law live in woman out to meet his friends or relatives? This friend of mine (well ex boyfriend really) has a very peculiar situation going on. His current common-law wife has only ever met his relatives once in three years, and when I was going with him I knew the relatives really well. I still remain good friends with his family and him, but he has never introduced his wife to any of his close friends and doesn't even act like he is married. The family doesn't understand why she never comes over and I am beginning to wonder if there are internal problems going on. Why do people do this to family? I guess I'm curious to know why he has changed since I was going with him.

i think if you understood this that you should exclude yourself from his family from now on. what business do you have anyways going over there and staying friends with his family. i would not tolerate this from my b'f's ex, i would put a stop to it if he didn't.

I don't go over there at all. We just send holiday greetings to each other and they contact me more than I contact them.

i think you should butt out of his family and allow her to be the center of their lives, not you!

My question was more of a general nature than a personal one.

[Tony T]

I think he doesn't bring his current wife to see his family because he doesn't want to and that, to me, would be a most excellent reason.

You ask why. There are a great many reasons why this could be. You say he is your good friend, you ought to bring it up sometime with him. You have me curious now as well so let us all know when you find out.