Hello, I have a very serious problem and I was just looking for some advice, input, anything to help me come to a conclusion.

Me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly three years now.
We are not married but we have a 1 1/2 year old daughter together.
I love her with all my heart and honestly believe that she loves me as well.

The other day she told me that she wanted experience new things. She finally came to tell me that she wanted to have sex with another man. She knows the person she wants to do it with and has already given it some thought.

She told me that I can have relations with another girl if I chose. I do not want to do so. I told her I would think about it. She wants to do this. I have given much thought and am wanting to break up with her but I just can't do it. I want to stay together but I don't know if I can do it happily.

Is there any way to resolve this without losing her?

I want to stay together but I don't know if I can do it happily.

Is there any way to resolve this without losing her?

Probably not. If she knows her having sex with someone else will hurt you but wants to do it anyway, then your feelings have become unimportant to her. You'll only end up hurt.

[peterparks]

Yeah, I agree with the Guest's comments. If she still considers you important, then she wouldn't entertain the thought of having sex with another man.

[alphamale]

Originally Posted by Guest

Is there any way to resolve this without losing her?

You've already lost her brother...starting going into damage control mode.

[norajane]

If you agree, she's going to have sex with him.

If you don't agree, she's going to have sex with him behind your back.

Either way, she will have sex with him. End this relationship now, so you can start the healing process and move on. A woman who wants to have sex with someone else isn't a woman who is into YOU.

[Rooster_DAR]

Originally Posted by alphamale

You've already lost her brother...starting going into damage control mode.

Yup, I could not agree anymore.