let's all be celibate

bluetuesday · 26th October 2006, 9:24 PM

you know, i've been celibate for a long time now and genuinely i've never been happier. i'm pretty sure i will stay this way for ever. and the longer it goes on, the happier i am. that's something they don't tell you. that being celibate has immense benefits. you think much more clearly. you get a deep sense of satifaction and peace from not being focused on getting some all the time.

i'm convinced that there are just some things you can't experience when you're so fixated on getting shagged. and i feel sad that some people's lives seem to revolve around sex. if they're getting it they're happy. if they're not, they're miserable. ugh, that's such an unsatisfactory way to live.

i have learned things in this lifetime i wouldn't have missed for anything, and they've happened because i've got energy to devote to them because i'm not bothered about finding sex or keeping sex.

i have a hugely rich spiritual life and it's fulfilling in a way sex never was or ever could be. i am totally fulfilled by it. i feel like i need nothing from life and i'm grateful for everything. i feel whole.

isn't that a wonderful thing? truly, i wouldn't swap being me for the whole world.

i think everyone on LS should try being celibate on purpose. i highly recommend it.

tanbark813 · 26th October 2006, 9:27 PM

I couldn't live with myself if I deprived the ladies of my lovin'. It's not fair to them.

burning 4 revenge · 26th October 2006, 9:27 PM

being celibate is the worst thing that ever happened to me and thats not an exageration

26th October 2006, 10:07 PM

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when you're so fixated on getting shagged

That assumes that you are either 'fixated on getting shagged' or else eschewing sex altogether. I don't think everyone treads that line.

I have a very healthy sex drive but I've had plenty of periods of celibacy in my life because I won't just shag for the sake of sex.

I spent much of my life since high school tending to my spirituality and I'm very happy and peaceful.

However, I did have the good fortune to be in a good relationship and I'd be delighted to have another one. Not 'to shag' but for all the enjoyment that a good relationship can bring - including sex.

I think that even though Buddha preached elimination of all desires, he'd not be that upset at people who practiced the 'middle way' in terms of balancing life/spirituality/relationship/sex.

But certainly for people who go at sex the way others go at eating or drinking (always in excess), then perhaps it might be a good idea for them to try doing without for a bit.

phyrespryte · 26th October 2006, 10:07 PM

It was fun the first year. I mean I got my virginity back...that's pretty special.
But then I decided aww...what the heck? 2 more years couldn't hurt.

Blah.
Now I wonder if I even know how to do it anymore.

luvtoto · 26th October 2006, 10:09 PM

bluetuesday, what then do you do for your 'release'??

bluetuesday · 27th October 2006, 2:13 PM

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Originally Posted by luvtoto

bluetuesday, what then do you do for your 'release'??

i don't need a release. in my experience, a release is only needed when you allow sexual tension to build up.

bluetuesday · 27th October 2006, 2:17 PM

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Originally Posted by burning 4 revenge

being celibate is the worst thing that ever happened to me and thats not an exageration

you believe you have had celibacy thrust upon you, though. excuse the phrasing.

that's a whoooooole different ball game to choosing it.

i am talking about being celibate out of choice.

you are talking about the perceived removal of your choices.

apples and oranges, my friend.

luvtoto · 27th October 2006, 2:23 PM

So, BT, do you ever experience sexual attraction? Do you have any emotional needs?

allina · 27th October 2006, 2:39 PM

Nah, not buying it, no thanks.

elijahBailey · 27th October 2006, 2:56 PM

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Originally Posted by bluetuesday

i think everyone on LS should try being celibate on purpose. i highly recommend it.

Question: assuming I can convince my SO to be celibate, can I still do porn and jerk off and still be considered celibate?

luvtoto · 27th October 2006, 3:16 PM

I've heard of people being A-sexual. But, that is when you have no emotional needs or sexual attraction to either sexes.

Is that what we are talking about here?

quankanne · 27th October 2006, 3:42 PM

I've heard of people being A-sexual. But, that is when you have no emotional needs or sexual attraction to either sexes. Is that what we are talking about here?

I think what he's talking about is consciously accepting that having sex is not the be-all, end-all of your relationship with someone, or the only goal you fixate on. It's possible to get to a point where you want something more than just to screw, even when you love your partner dearly ... you cross over into a more spiritual realm, I guess is one way of putting it, the physicality of sex just doesn't have the same meaning. It doesn't mean you don't enjoy sex, but it takes on a new dimension because you're looking at it differently through a celibate experience. Though technically, celibate means "unpartnered," while abstinence is forgoing sexual intercourse.

luvtoto · 27th October 2006, 10:49 PM

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Originally Posted by quankanne

I think what he's talking about is consciously accepting that having sex is not the be-all, end-all of your relationship with someone, or the only goal you fixate on. It's possible to get to a point where you want something more than just to screw, even when you love your partner dearly.

I think that happens every day in relationships, but yet sex is still involved. It's all about balance in life. Balance is what makes ya happy. Not making extreme decisions.

RecordProducer · 27th October 2006, 11:12 PM

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Originally Posted by bluetuesday

i wouldn't swap being me for the whole world.

And we wouldn't swap being us for you either!