[rickyphoenix]

I've been through a lot this year...and the past couple of weeks made things worse. First off I've been yelled at by nearly everyone I know in my life for one thing or another. Then I've had my head taken off for mistakes I've made in the past, and have tried to make up for ever since, by my ex-girlfriend who's now my former best friend. Only in the past few days has she left me alone but not for the right reasons...it's only because she found someone else she wants romantically and she expects me to forget the nasty things she's said to me. On top of all of that things deteriorated in my love life, or what's left of it. My past mistakes are all anyone else knows about me so meeting anyone else is out of the question. Now the whole "what if" thing with the girl I've been going after finally tanked. Everyone's been calling her a liar, a user and God knows what else but I knew she was better than that. I figured it was a long shot from the beginning but it still hurts.

I took this weekend to get away from everyone to figure out just what my life's turning out to be. The truth is...nothing's left. It's like I saw all of this in front of me and I tried so hard to see something else, that I've actually done some good and turned myself around. Instead I'm forced to see that everything's been coming apart and I'm just becoming aware of that now. I just don't know what to make of any of this. I just don't...

[mpd_26]

I know how you feel...I have a lot of people telling me of my mistakes, or that I can't do this or that. I figured out that I do not need those negative people in my life. I ignore their emails, or their calls/messages. I do what makes ME happy, not what makes everybody else happy. Life is tough, that's for sure!!!! I've had A LOT of bumps in my road, too, and am dealing w/ a huge one right now. All you can do is ignore what they say, have some faith in yourself, and move on. Maybe moving to a new area would help you? All I can really express is that you can't listen to their negative comments. It's YOUR life, not theirs, and you need to realize the GOOD things you HAVE done, and focus on them...

[D-Lish]

When all you do is focus on the negative things that happen in your life... it's inevitable that's all you'll see. Try making a habit of noticing the good things that happen- no matter how small.... it might begin to help you put things back into perspective.

It's a nasty trap- when you get down on yourself.

Just recognize that you have the power to make choices and pull yourself out of this dark place. Some things you can control- and some things you can't. Work on the things you can control.

What a better way to get motivated than to make an effort to change the things you don't like about yourself. Stop listening to everybody else for a short while and focus on you and what you need to do to get back to being happy again.

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[ilmw]

Originally Posted by rickyphoenix

I've been through a lot this year...and the past couple of weeks made things worse. First off I've been yelled at by nearly everyone I know in my life for one thing or another. Then I've had my head taken off for mistakes I've made in the past, and have tried to make up for ever since, by my ex-girlfriend who's now my former best friend. Only in the past few days has she left me alone but not for the right reasons...it's only because she found someone else she wants romantically and she expects me to forget the nasty things she's said to me. On top of all of that things deteriorated in my love life, or what's left of it. My past mistakes are all anyone else knows about me so meeting anyone else is out of the question. Now the whole "what if" thing with the girl I've been going after finally tanked. Everyone's been calling her a liar, a user and God knows what else but I knew she was better than that. I figured it was a long shot from the beginning but it still hurts.

I took this weekend to get away from everyone to figure out just what my life's turning out to be. The truth is...nothing's left. It's like I saw all of this in front of me and I tried so hard to see something else, that I've actually done some good and turned myself around. Instead I'm forced to see that everything's been coming apart and I'm just becoming aware of that now. I just don't know what to make of any of this. I just don't...

No time is wasted if you can learn from it...

Something I have learned.. is this... only you can control you .... others can not... should not control... you. Your emotions.. and/or the way you feel about you should not depend on how others think of you...

Look deep inside yourself... if you like what you see.. great. If not...you might want to start doing some soul searching...

On another note... are you depressed? Have you seen a doctor? If your clinically depressed... you may need help that way..

If your medically clear... there is absolutly no reason why you cannot pull your self out of the slump...

If you want to change things in your life.. change things in your life.