Disagreement on quitting smoking

IhavenoFREAKINclue · 19th October 2006, 9:48 AM

So my husband wants to quit smoking...and I don't.

OK..Wait...I'll say it for you guys....."Its bad for you" "Shortens your life" If you love him and he wants to quit, than you should too"

I dont make him do things he doesnt want to do. He's all about socalism and the witholding of peoples rights and all that. If i dont want to quit, why do I HAVE to.
If your gonna die, your gonna die. Crossing the street, driving your car..WHO KNOWS!? Some of you are gonna tell me all the bad qualities of smoking and blah blah.

I Like it! I don't wanna quit! (so don't try to convince me)

And of course not only 1 can quit. We both have to.
What to do, what to do?

a4a · 19th October 2006, 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue

So my husband wants to quit smoking...and I don't.

OK..Wait...I'll say it for you guys....."Its bad for you" "Shortens your life" If you love him and he wants to quit, than you should too"

I dont make him do things he doesnt want to do. He's all about socalism and the witholding of peoples rights and all that. If i dont want to quit, why do I HAVE to.
If your gonna die, your gonna die. Crossing the street, driving your car..WHO KNOWS!? Some of you are gonna tell me all the bad qualities of smoking and blah blah.

I Like it! I don't wanna quit! (so don't try to convince me)

And of course not only 1 can quit. We both have to.
What to do, what to do?

Just don't smoke in his presence, go outside to smoke if seeing you smoke will hinder him from quitting. Instead of fighting his desire negotiate and find a way to support him.

IhavenoFREAKINclue · 19th October 2006, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by a4a

Just don't smoke in his presence, go outside to smoke if seeing you smoke will hinder him from quitting. Instead of fighting his desire negotiate and find a way to support him.

See we have , lest say, a routine that we always do. We eat dnner and go smoke. We watch a movie then go smoke..Together. Some great conversations were created by a cigarette break. But if I go outside he'll be thinking about anyway so just the thought will make him wanna do it. Not really sure of any good ways to get outta this.

amaysngrace · 19th October 2006, 10:17 AM

You can't quit unless you want to. And you aren't responsible for his quitting either, no more than he is for yours.

Granted it'd be easier if you'd do it together, but it's your life. You can't stop until you're ready.

19th October 2006, 10:29 AM

It's not about the dying. It's about the dying horribly and painfully. I've watched it. You really don't want to do it. Think again.

a4a · 19th October 2006, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by amaysngrace

You can't quit unless you want to. And you aren't responsible for his quitting either, no more than he is for yours.

Granted it'd be easier if you'd do it together, but it's your life. You can't stop until you're ready.

Yeah but it sounds like the OP really prefers if he does not quit

from her recent post: routine, great conversation, together.........

amaysngrace · 19th October 2006, 10:41 AM

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Yeah but it sounds like the OP really prefers if he does not quit

from her recent post: routine, great conversation, together.........

Uh-oh...I hope that's not true. Is that true, OP?

IhavenoFREAKINclue · 19th October 2006, 10:51 AM

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Uh-oh...I hope that's not true. Is that true, OP?

Yeah so what. But if he wants to quit I'm behind him, I just don't want to.
And between you and I..our backyard is scary and I cnat go outside without him cause I always think theres a guy behing the wall of ivy and trees. shhhhh

a4a · 19th October 2006, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue

Yeah so what. But if he wants to quit I'm behind him, I just don't want to.
And between you and I..our backyard is scary and I cnat go outside without him cause I always think theres a guy behing the wall of ivy and trees. shhhhh

IMHO you are being very selfish and immature. It is his body and you should not try to make it more difficult for him simply because you will miss your smoking time together.......you feel rejected?

Tell him : I am not ready to quit smoking, but please tell me what I can do to help support you while you are in the midst of quitting.

amaysngrace · 19th October 2006, 11:03 AM

Honestly, if there's a guy behind a wall, I think you'll be safe alone.

I think the smell will keep him away.

IhavenoFREAKINclue · 19th October 2006, 11:04 AM

I was just bringing up things i would miss..their not gonna keep me from supporting him..are you kidding, You don't know me, I'm not a selfish person.

IhavenoFREAKINclue · 19th October 2006, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by amaysngrace

Honestly, if there's a guy behind a wall, I think you'll be safe alone.

I think the smell will keep him away.

I...I;m sorry..the smell of what?

amaysngrace · 19th October 2006, 11:08 AM

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I...I;m sorry..the smell of what?

The smell of your cigarette, Silly. Unless the perp smokes. And then you'll have company. Hey, it's a win/win!!

IhavenoFREAKINclue · 19th October 2006, 11:11 AM

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The smell of your cigarette, Silly. Unless the perp smokes. And then you'll have company. Hey, it's a win/win!!

HAH Way to put a silver liningn on it!!!

amaysngrace · 19th October 2006, 11:16 AM

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HAH Way to put a silver liningn on it!!!

I do my best.

Actually, I'm giddy right now from stopping smoking myself. It's been since Sunday. I'm wearing a patch and sucking unlit cigars, so don't mind me if I'm being a bit odd, kay?

I'm probably ODing on tobacco!