Hi all
I haven't posted for a while - since June. My MM and I have been hot and heavy all this time. Some of you will remember there has also been competition from Jaws (another co-worker as well). I truly believe he was only sleeping with me, but he always had this emotional connection to Jaws. I got a transfer so she wouldn't be my supervisor, and she transferred out of her job six weeks later to be a direct report to him. Would you believe it??
We have slept together 4 times per week, and would go more if we could get together. We just about made a year, but I called it quits tonight. Why? - for the following small reasons but they scream big warning signs. I gave him some fruit in tubs which I asked him to return when he had finished so I could recycle them. He did return the tubs, and gave them back to me in my office. However I forgot to take them home as I had put them in a cupboard. I put them out on my bench as a reminder. He saw them and asked me to hide them so Jaws wouldn't see them. He told me that she saw them first thing Monday morning in his office and wanted to know who they were for. He told her a lie(!!) and said they were for some guy who had an orchard, and he didn't want her to see them in my office and know that he lied (so what else is new). Why he didn't say none of her business is beyond me. He also organised a morning tea this morning. Told me about it, but told me I was not invited because he didn't want anyone to get the wrong idea about us - in other words Jaws. She was invited but I wasn't. He told me I would get first pick of the cakes and I told him not to bother. If he had I would have taken them down to Jaws and slapped it into her face

. It was the last straw. Remember, he called it off for 3 weeks in April this year because she was sent a copy of a personal email from him to me and she went ballistic about it.
The ironic thing is that we slept together yesterday, he must have phoned me at least 8 times during the day, called in numerous times and spent the last hour talking to me in my office and then walked me down the stairs holding my hand. Had the morning tea this morning and didn't see much of him. I think yesterday may have been because he was feeling guilty. I really don't know anymore, but I have gone beyond caring. He still walks Jaws to her car - she still hangs back till 5.30pm waiting for him. I have seen them but never asked.
I think his actions have spoken loudly. She will always be number one and I felt like a third class citizen. Time to stand up for me. I feel quite OK at the moment so hope this strength continues.
Wish me good luck but I am hoping I don't need it.