[Stunner]

SO...here we are in between. Seeing each other one to two times a week both hiding the fact we are crazy about each other because it's so soon. Almost four months in, him 45...me 38.

*sigh*...you know what I've learned? Well, many things but primarily that being patient sucks. But also, good things are worth taking time with. This is the first time I haven't rushed in. Each day I learn more things to respect in him as he does in me. This is probably the first time in my 38 years a man has truly respected me and my emotional boundaries while exhibiting his own. It's truly beautiful....crap.

That doesn't resolve the immediate issues of lack of sexual contact and frequency but the long term pay off could be amazing. I know..."Be Still"...let good things come to me...etc.

It just plain sucks.

ok I just started dating this 34 year old man, might I mind you I'm 25 he says he is looking for something long term later on but we dont discuss "where we really stand" at this point. He makes plans for us to go out once a week "he is a single father of 3, raising them on his own (ex-wife took off, due to drug habits and hasn't seen him or the kids in 3 years) he has dated 2 other girls prior to me, its strange to me because I'm really used to a guy atleast trying "something with me so soon"

we have been seeing eachother only a month, but the guy works with my dad, in fact my dad is the one who kinda set us up. But anyways, we've now been to dinner and movie and he is talking about "taking a day off work" to spend together. I have 2 children a 7 yr old and soon to be 3 year old his soon to be 11, a 12 yr old and 14 years old. Wow I know, anyways I'm getting sooooo impatient, I just want a "real kiss" he likes to cuddle a lot which is a shock to me its soooo sweet but I just want to know what its like you know

he has mentioned to my father a year ago before me and him were really introduced that he doesn't like "fast girls" I'm concerned because I dont want to sleep with him but I would like to atleast get a darn loving kiss....maybe I'm just used to my past relationships is all. I really respect him as a father and a person he is absolutely my dream guy everyone loves him my family has known him for almost 6 years and they really want us to "happen" I'm afraid I will run him off, I text him a lot, he does text me quite a bit to but I feel like I initialize a lot of it. I dont want to be "needy" and seem like I am smothering him what do you suggest?

Amber
(amberwilson81@hotmail.com)

Originally Posted by Stunner

SO...here we are in between. Seeing each other one to two times a week both hiding the fact we are crazy about each other because it's so soon. Almost four months in, him 45...me 38.

*sigh*...you know what I've learned? Well, many things but primarily that being patient sucks. But also, good things are worth taking time with. This is the first time I haven't rushed in. Each day I learn more things to respect in him as he does in me. This is probably the first time in my 38 years a man has truly respected me and my emotional boundaries while exhibiting his own. It's truly beautiful....crap.

That doesn't resolve the immediate issues of lack of sexual contact and frequency but the long term pay off could be amazing. I know..."Be Still"...let good things come to me...etc.

It just plain sucks.

[Amber81]

just thought I would let you know if you decide to message to me that I was the guest up there, I just now registered goodluck!

[Stunner]

Well, at a month into the relationship he and I spoke every day...still do for the most part. Sometimes his work takes him out of town. I make sure that I do not call daily, especially when he's driving several hours to arrive at his client's city. I just want to make sure he has time on his own if he chooses and he doesn't feel 'obligated' to call if he's tired or just needs some 'down' time.

Every time I feel anxious or really miss him at night I just take a deep breath and find something to do. I still go out alone too....I don't sit at home and wait for him to be available. Just let it be, what is supposed to happen will happen. Good men are worth the time and patience.

I hope that helps.

[Amber81]

you helped me a bunch. Sometimes I do wish I had more to do though LOL, like being a single mom isn't enough! Cleaning just isn't fun anyways, you seem like a really awesome person. I'm so glad I joined last night I love to read the post and get answers to my questions, its like a little family here and yet your not really "friends" in life with these people, so there for you can have un-biased opinions! Its great, goodluck with you I added you to my buddy list I enjoy reading your post! Have a good one!