[re-searching]

I know I am not alone here.

I am trying to move on from my last relationship. I have found myself leaning (on an eager to be lent on) prior ex.

We both agree there is a bond after 10+ years, but we are just friends. We have been having FUN together. But when the fun is over, he thinks we should be having sex. I am not saying that I am not open to a FWB relationship right now. Not that I haven't b4. It justs feels weird, with the ex b4 the ex????

On the 1st such instance, I tried to curb the situation by saying that condoms (hates them) will need to be used. No need for me to worry because he has some. The entire situation still did not go well & I left.

I did some thinking & thought there might be a possiblity for some interaction there. Like going home for a vist or something. To make a long story short he would not use a condem & nothing was going to happen from my end of the spectrum. I do not believe he has them or has ever used them.

I tried to explain that this would be for his protection as well. My last ex is bi or something??!!! Still trying to figure that one out.

Anyhow I left again & no-one was sexually gratified.

I know I am regressing - I need to keep moving forward. There are more men in this world than my exes. How do I find me & not rebound with an old a love of my life? Toys could do part of the trick, but the rest needs to be human contact & I do not really 'know' anyone here.

What is wrong with me?

[norajane]

Nothing too wrong. You're smart enough to have refused sex without condoms, so you get points for that!

There's nothing really wrong with you. Exes who have remained friends are comfortable, so it's easy to seek comfort - both emotional and physical - with them. As you said though, there are more men that out there besides your exes!

If you're dealing with a break-up, try hanging out with your girlfriends, not guy friends. You're more likely to meet a great guy that way than if you're out with a guy.

Also, get involved in new things that might bring you into contact with new people, and might be interesting enough to remain a fun hobby or activity for you.

Relax. It takes time. Vibrators work great and don't cause any drama. Have fun.