Here is my dilema. We got married in July... only three months ago and he NEVER wants sex!! He tells me that I am, "a hornball." It makes me feel bad for wanting sex. I feel so unattractive and so very unhappy! When we do have sex it is because I come onto him... he never instigates it. I don't want our whole marriage to be like this!! HELP!!!

[norajane]

Maybe you could give us more information because that sounds pretty unusual.

How was your sex life before marriage? Did he initiate sex then? What were the circumstances when he'd initiate...after a date? after not having sex for a week? after not seeing you for a while?

And when you say never, do you mean never, or do you mean sometime, but not often enough?

How's the rest of your marriage? Are you two happy otherwise?

[LaughMachine]

dang I'm sorry

[HeyYouGuys]

That's awful!

Did the sex suddenly drop off after marriage or has he always had a lower sex drive than you?


There's nothing worse than wanting someone and feeling like they just don't want you in the same way.


I don't have a good answer for you other than

* Tell him this is a very serious problem for you and you need to understand what he's feeling and thinking about things

* If the problem doesn't get better, suggest counseling for the two of you


Good luck
Hope you can fix it