So I was at the movies yesterady a girl and a few guys were sitting in the row in front of us. As she was about to sit down, she looked at me for about 3-5 seconds. This made me think about how this has happened to me before. Is this a good or a bad thing? Someone once said to me "If a girl is making it obvious she is look at you, it is bad." This true?
So I was at the movies yesterady a girl and a few guys were sitting in the row in front of us. As she was about to sit down, she looked at me for about 3-5 seconds. This made me think about how this has happened to me before. Is this a good or a bad thing? Someone once said to me "If a girl is making it obvious she is look at you, it is bad." This true?
I think whoever told you that is just flat wrong.
I definitely would take strong eye contact as an invitation to say hi.
When the movie was over and they left, was it obvious that she was with one of the 'few guys'?
Did you find the contact and her attractive? If yes, and if you notice she's not obviously with a guy, make contact with her after the movie. Next time
Remember, the key is what *you* want in this situation. IMO, don't approach every girl who looks at you. Be selective....
If she appears to be with someone, write it off to the normal female behavior of acquiring a 'quickie' ego boost by garnering the brief attention of a man. Validation.
When the movie was over and they left, was it obvious that she was with one of the 'few guys'?
Did you find the contact and her attractive? If yes, and if you notice she's not obviously with a guy, make contact with her after the movie. Next time
Remember, the key is what *you* want in this situation. IMO, don't approach every girl who looks at you. Be selective....
If she appears to be with someone, write it off to the normal female behavior of acquiring a 'quickie' ego boost by garnering the brief attention of a man. Validation.
No, it wasn't obvious she was "with" one of them. Yeah, I found her attractive.
As for the ego boost thing, would they do that towards a guy, regardless of whether they were attracted to him or not? And yeah, I had intentions of being selective.
It also can get him a throat full of teeth. IMO, decorum trumps connection. If he were to be so bold and had the lady's husband or BF staring him down, I think his movie-going experience would take a decided turn for the worse.
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As for the ego boost thing, would they do that towards a guy, regardless of whether they were attracted to him or not?
Yes, it can have nothing to do with attraction. It's simple psychological validation. I experienced this a lot while married, with other married women. Masters, they are, right in front of their husbands.
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It also can get him a throat full of teeth. IMO, decorum trumps connection. If he were to be so bold and had the lady's husband or BF staring him down, I think his movie-going experience would take a decided turn for the worse.
Yes, it can have nothing to do with attraction. It's simple psychological validation. I experienced this a lot while married, with other married women. Masters, they are, right in front of their husbands.
Clever witches, hehe j/k.
Anyway, I just wish I knew of clear signals so I wouldn't make a fool out of myself.
Being bold is a positive thing, but don't let emotion operate without the benefit of intellect. When dealing with any human, there is always an element of the unknown. Being in the middle of a divorce, I can tell you that with assurance. Learn how people relate to each other. Observe body language. Understand that every woman who makes eye contact with doesn't want to ride your flagpole. Some do.
Tell you what, the next time you encounter such a situation, just smile and say hi. That's it. Gauge the response. If some strange guy was saying hi to my wife, I'd expect an introduction, but would not be annoyed.
Being bold is a positive thing, but don't let emotion operate without the benefit of intellect. When dealing with any human, there is always an element of the unknown. Being in the middle of a divorce, I can tell you that with assurance. Learn how people relate to each other. Observe body language. Understand that every woman who makes eye contact with doesn't want to ride your flagpole. Some do.
Tell you what, the next time you encounter such a situation, just smile and say hi. That's it. Gauge the response. If some strange guy was saying hi to my wife, I'd expect an introduction, but would not be annoyed.
I understand that. I just don't understand why they don't give out clear-cut signals. I just don't want to put myself out there and be rejected.
I already expected to be rejected often. Meh, I was trying to get advice in another thread so that would happen LESS often. I guess most people don't want to see others happy .
I can't be rejected "less" because I have never, never asked a girl out. And I don't plan on doing that until I can find out what is wrong with me.
Why does the concept of constant rejection make me unhappy?, because outside of someone who is already attached, rejection is a confirmation of being sub-par.
Why does the concept of constant rejection make me unhappy?, because outside of someone who is already attached, rejection is a confirmation of being sub-par.
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