went through her phone

she texts all the time, not telling me who she's texting. She says she wants her privacy, and i'm too controlling.

we've had an issue before, when i went through the computer she gave me and looked at all the pictures, then she flipped out that i went through the pictures on the computer.

anyway, i went through her phone when she left it in the other room this morning, i saw lots of texts, from last night, between her and this guy in jamaica, about when she's going down, her telling him he can come up to stay with her. She calls him her hubby, calls him babe and baby. he calls her hunny, she calls him it back, he calls her his future wife, she replies

one text was "i'm trying to stay out of trouble until my baby comes"

he replies "i can't wait babes, it's gonna be awesome"

i think i should be worried?

Should i confront her? should i tell her i went through her phone? should i just end it? --this behavior is not something i would want in a wife

should i just end it/end it with telling her why (that i went through her phone)/?? suggestions??

How should i handle this?

she texts all the time, not telling me who she's texting. She says she wants her privacy, and i'm too controlling.

we've had an issue before, when i went through the computer she gave me and looked at all the pictures, then she flipped out that i went through the pictures on the computer.

 

anyway, i went through her phone when she left it in the other room this morning, i saw lots of texts, from last night, between her and this guy in jamaica, about when she's going down, her telling him he can come up to stay with her. She calls him her hubby, calls him babe and baby. he calls her hunny, she calls him it back, he calls her his future wife, she replies

one text was "i'm trying to stay out of trouble until my baby comes"

he replies "i can't wait babes, it's gonna be awesome"

 

i think i should be worried?

Should i confront her? should i tell her i went through her phone? should i just end it? --this behavior is not something i would want in a wife

 

should i just end it/end it with telling her why (that i went through her phone)/?? suggestions??

 

How should i handle this?

You think??!! You just caught your GF making future plans with another dude. Even though is just text and it's a LD... she is still entertaining another man other than you. I suggest you let her know that you are VERY SORRY that you went through her phone, tell her what you read and that it is official over! Unless, you want to host her OM around when he comes over...

Sorry but this is the skinny. Dump your GF, she is cheating.

You should end it. She's already cheated on you. Jamaica has a huge AIDS problem. You don't wanna catch that disease.

You think??!! You just caught your GF making future plans with another dude. Even though is just text and it's a LD... she is still entertaining another man other than you. I suggest you let her know that you are VERY SORRY that you went through her phone, tell her what you read and that it is official over! Unless, you want to host her OM around when he comes over...

 

Sorry but this is the skinny. Dump your GF, she is cheating.

thanks i needed to hear that, i just keep thinking, if she didn't want to be with me she wouldn't

she says she loves me, yet she's entertaining another guy!? as she sits across from me i feel the disappointment in the person she is swelling up inside of me

how should i do this? should i wait until the end of the day? should i just tell her, sorry i went through your phone but i saw some texts, there's no trust, you're flirting with another guy it's over?

Dump her and make it quick. Millions of fish out there. You don't even have to tell her why.

this is cheating! i would assume that she has already been with this guy sexually before, if not she is planning on it when she visits him and he visits her. even if they haven't had sex yet, it's still emotional cheating. tell her what you found, and that your are done! you deserve better and shouldn't accept this type of activity from the person you are with! you need to find someone who cherishes you as much as them!

this is cheating! i would assume that she has already been with this guy sexually before, if not she is planning on it when she visits him and he visits her. even if they haven't had sex yet, it's still emotional cheating. tell her what you found, and that your are done! you deserve better and shouldn't accept this type of activity from the person you are with! you need to find someone who cherishes you as much as them!

should i do it right now, shes sitting across from me, or should i wait until tonight??

thanks all

i keep thinking maybe it's a good friend, just trying to find someway to explain what i saw

the fact is, every text, every message, every key tap i wonder who she's talking to.

there no trust anymore

i'll tell her that i'm sorry for going though her phone, but that from what i saw she's entertaining another guy, and i'm not going to put up with that, and that you're actions have ended this relationship

should i do it now, or later tonight? i'm leaning more towards now?

just ask her about it now and who that guy was, if shes unwilling to talk about it, dump her.

If it isnt a big deal she will feel comfortable to talk about it. If shes hiding something she will get defensive, and thats your sign.

just ask her about it now and who that guy was, if shes unwilling to talk about it, dump her.

 

If it isnt a big deal she will feel comfortable to talk about it. If shes hiding something she will get defensive, and thats your sign.

sounds good, thanks, im going to do this now,

lets see how this goes

just ask her about it now and who that guy was, if shes unwilling to talk about it, dump her.

 

If it isnt a big deal she will feel comfortable to talk about it. If shes hiding something she will get defensive, and thats your sign.

Let's be for real here... YOUR SIGN is that you read messages where is she is making plans with OM, she calls him baby, he calls her wifey, that he misses her and she can't wait till he comes and stays with her.

What more signs do you need????????

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?

If she is sitting in front of texting her "boo", then which one is your place in this picture? You're just the frame that is going to hold the destination wedding she is going to have with Jamaican boy. CUT HER OFF!

Better yet, grab her phone call the guy and tell him that his wifey is on her merry way to paradise island...

Good riddance honey!

i have to agree with mimolicious! she has to be cheating! and if she got defensive over pics then she is going to freak about the cell phone. she is disrespecting you...stand up for yourself and find what you deserve!

did not go well, i said you need to tell me who it is, she says she's not going to etc

i told her i have trust issues from what's happened between us, and that the text messages do not look good. eventually she just said that's her best friend and that's how she talks to people, which is true in some ways she does talk flirtly with everyone.

i told her i wanted her to remove the password from her phone. she said she wouldn't do it

we basically came to the conclusion, she told me she would never cheat/do anything with anyone else before us ending it

feel like i lost my spine

i have to agree with mimolicious! she has to be cheating! and if she got defensive over pics then she is going to freak about the cell phone. she is disrespecting you...stand up for yourself and find what you deserve!

she freaked out, freaked out and wouldn't tell me, then says he's a good friend, just like robbiedawg on bbm messenger a few eeks ago that i saw

Let's be for real here... YOUR SIGN is that you read messages where is she is making plans with OM, she calls him baby, he calls her wifey, that he misses her and she can't wait till he comes and stays with her.

 

What more signs do you need????????

 

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?

 

If she is sitting in front of texting her "boo", then which one is your place in this picture? You're just the frame that is going to hold the destination wedding she is going to have with Jamaican boy. CUT HER OFF!

 

Better yet, grab her phone call the guy and tell him that his wifey is on her merry way to paradise island...

Good riddance honey!

she said that the messages regarding visiting eachother were just play, that ppl don't make serious plans like that

You sound like me when I found pictures & chat logs between my wife & OM.

She promised she wasn't doing anything. he was just a friend, ect.

I never regained her trust & my gut was right all along.

Did she try to have sex with you to make you feel better?

Is she living with you?

Is it your place or hers?

I'm going to let you in on a little secret.

 

 

All women always have at least 4-5 different guys on the side they are talking to. The question is not if she is planning to meet up with theses dudes, just when.

 

If you're dating a girl and shes texting a lot just assume it's another guy shes planning to bone.

You don't seem to cease to make ignorant comments, do you?

ALL WOMEN?

ALL WOMEN?

Yes, all women.

The problem with todays society in regards to women is access, and they just can't help themselves.

Every single women on earth is one mouse click away from being in bed with a male model or a rich guy that will shower them with gifts.

You sound like me when I found pictures & chat logs between my wife & OM.

 

She promised she wasn't doing anything. he was just a friend, ect.

I never regained her trust & my gut was right all along.

 

Did she try to have sex with you to make you feel better?

 

Is she living with you?

Is it your place or hers?

23 yrs old

haven't had sex in a while

my place, stays here a lot

"i love you, but it's moving towards a friend love"

All I can say is shes full of ****, if she cared for you she would stop or compromise in some way.

This is how it starts, a few small harmless texts usually turns into something real, even if it was a mistake.

My buddy caught his wife making plans to meet a guy at a hotel. This is exactly how it started.

End it man and move on, i rarely tell people to end it but in this case. Move on.

Yes, all women.

 

The problem with todays society in regards to women is access, and they just can't help themselves.

 

Every single women on earth is one mouse click away from being in bed with a male model or a rich guy that will shower them with gifts.

Right. You know it all and can account for the entire female population. Troll.NEXT!

Right. You know it all and can account for the entire female population. Troll.NEXT!

I have the intelligence and insight to know the truth about the nature of women, yes.