Hi guys,
I want to thank you all for your advice,now and previously.
I think that forums like these sometimes can be an excellent way of gaining perspective on things and an outlet when others don't understand. It's also a great way to make friends with people who understand you. But I also think that at times a forum with opinions from people coming from different backgrounds to what relationships are or should be can make you see things that aren't there in the first place.
Although this forum has worked for me many times, it isn't at the moment. I said something to my SO which I now deeply regret. And I feel I said it because I failed to relate what I know and think about him to what limited info. I have given to the forum and the advice I've taken on. Now that's my fault alone.
I feel I should learn to trust my own judgement more. If that means that I make mistakes then that's ok. I'll learn.
But nevertheless you guys have been very supportive. All the advice I got was actually very valid, objective yet caring. And I have learnt a lot. I will always appreciate that.
Thanks for all your help and best of luck to you all.
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