[stepka]

Originally Posted by TwilightSky

stepka, I'm not sure what to say. Women my age are extraordinarly picky--why would they go for me? I know I don't have much to offer.

You say that like it's news to me. Newsflash: women your age have always been picky and women my age are pretty picky too. And so are men, unless they're drunk and just looking for someone to bed. So what else is new? But, not all women of any age are picking the same things.

Here's my list of traits I'd look for in a man, and you can tell me if this sounds like your average popular with the ladies man: totally, totally hot, very outgoing, and nice sports car (just kidding!) okay: 1) nice personality but not too outgoing, b/c I'm not and that would really be a mismatch 2) must love to learn new things, either by reading a lot, or watching quality programs on TV 3) spiritually literate without being a fundamentalist anything 4) must love to try new foods 5) must love foreign travel and be willing to take me on my next RTW trip 6) would prefer someone who lives rather simply b/c I don't like a lot of glitz and the planet is in enough trouble from our greed as it is. Those are the basic things I'd look for. Does it sound like your typical man? Probably not. Notice I didn't say he has to be terribly handsome. I'd prefer someone pleasant to look at, but honestly, physical traits such as blond hair vs dark hair, tall vs short are totally immaterial. (I don't want a fat one or a smoker though, b/c I want someone who's going to live for awhile!) Once I fell in love with a man in a wheelchair, though alas, he didn't return the feeling. I was 22 at the time and looking back, kinda good looking.

So get out of your cycle of negativity and realize that there are all kinds of women out there, and all you need is one. And work on yourself and have faith that you will meet the right girl for you. And give our advice a chance here, b/c I don't want to think that I've wasted a whole hour of my life giving advice to someone who's going to dismiss it as the ravings of middle aged folks who don't know how it is in the real world. I've been 24 but you've never been 50--gosh, me and ol' carhill have 100 years of experience between us. Technology might have changed but people haven't.