[Sittingaround4813]

Ok now I am really confused.........


This was my oriinal posta few weeks ago:

I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now and our relationship is great. He is a bit older than I am by 16 years to be exact but that has never bothered us or anyone in our family. He has two beautiful kids that I adore and love being around.

He has been married twice before. Once to the mother of his children who ended up cheating on him and leaving him after 8 years and his second marriage ended after only 6 months, they were together for 2 years but when she realized she had an instant family and didnt want it, she left him and the kids.

From the very begining he has been very wishy washy about the idea of marriage again, I on the other hand wanted kids and to get married.....as time went on I realized that being with him ment that I was never going to have kids of my own, unfortunatly I can not get past the never getting married thing. for the past 6 months or so my boyfriend would always talk about our wedding and what it would be like, the flowers the cake the dress he even asked me what kind of rings I liked. I got excited thinking that maybe he was changing his mind. One day out of nowhere we got into a huge argument about marriage because he now is saying absolutly no way is he getting married again and I am just going to have to deal with it. I asked him why he was talking about it and his responce was it all sounds so nice he wants it to happen he just doesn't see himself getting married again. He tells me it doesn't change anything that he will be with me forever and he cant live without me, but Im torn. I dont think I can get past never getting married

The way I see it is I didn't do anything wrong and I have been nothing but a good girlfriend to him and a good role model to his kids. I want to be a family....correction we are a family but I think I am always going to feel like something is missing.....

I dont want to leave.....but I dont want to resent him if I stay.....

What do I do????



soooooooooooooooo

2 weeks ago we were both in a mutual friends wedding together, half way thru the night he brings me out in the hall way to sign the guest book, I had to pee bad so I told him to write in my name too...... I come out and he wrote:
"From the future Mr. and Mrs. (his last name) we love you both"

am I missing something here?

I told him that I didn't want him writing things like that and giving people the wrong impression because he always tells me and everyone that he will never get married again, and he got mad at me......

The bride and Groom came to me after their honeymoon and asked about it, wondering if he had changed his mind and when we were going to get married...... Im a little imbarrassed, I don't know how to respond.....

But it drives me CRAZY!!!! don't say what you don't mean, he always said he didn't want to get married and that he wanted to be up front and honest so I didn't get my hopes up...... well what is this????