If I add one more thing to my plate on this drama rollercoaster, I think that will be the end of it. I know I can be strong enough to get through this, but why can't things just happen one at a time instead of all at once?
PW gives great advice there. You must have been terrified last night! That has to be grounds for a restraining order if I ever heard it. Conspiring with your son is just beyond low as well, especially knowing your situation with your grandmothers passing. Disgusting!
I remember feeling that hings are happening all at once, that Gunnys "Storms of life" just seemed to run one right after the other. It's a trying time, and sounds silly, but at least your getting it over with. I went through a lot at the same time, with family issues, the BIG D, Allys death, and now my health. Yet I'm glad it all happened that way looking back in a strange way.
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PW gives great advice there. You must have been terrified last night! That has to be grounds for a restraining order if I ever heard it. Conspiring with your son is just beyond low as well, especially knowing your situation with your grandmothers passing. Disgusting!
I remember feeling that hings are happening all at once, that Gunnys "Storms of life" just seemed to run one right after the other. It's a trying time, and sounds silly, but at least your getting it over with. I went through a lot at the same time, with family issues, the BIG D, Allys death, and now my health. Yet I'm glad it all happened that way looking back in a strange way.
TOJAZ
Well, talk with son has been benificial....he's old enough to understand and he likes ex's gf and doens't understand why he would disrespect her to be here last night....I think ex proved his stuidity over that. He promised he would lock the doors next time ex shows up unannounced.
Talked to sister in law today and she never indicated that ex should be doing anything with me to show his "compassion".....NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC...not sure how many times I can post that.
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Well, talk with son has been benificial....he's old enough to understand and he likes ex's gf and doens't understand why he would disrespect her to be here last night....I think ex proved his stuidity over that. He promised he would lock the doors next time ex shows up unannounced.
Talked to sister in law today and she never indicated that ex should be doing anything with me to show his "compassion".....NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC NC...not sure how many times I can post that.
Glad DS sees the big picture and understands. I don't think NC is going to be a problem for you, it's getting STBX to stick to it.
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Who knows what STBEXH sees, dont' really care, I didn't need him, what once out of 15 years??? Who cares....sorry, but compassion only runs as deep as it is given.....
I wish I could feel alive, but I feel so dead inside....maybe that's the point.
Glad DS sees the big picture and understands. I don't think NC is going to be a problem for you, it's getting STBX to stick to it.
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Well, you definitely have a point to the STBX sticking to it. Right after the funeral yesterday, he resends one of his ugly posts from the previous night and then sends another apologizing, didn't mean to send that...wanted to know where his son was.
Ok, son has a cell phone, why he has to text me asking where he is.....just BS. I didn't respond, called my son at home and asked if his dad had texted or called him...No. I just told our son to call him and see what he wanted. I'm taking myself out of the middle of that.
You are stuck in a difficult position trippi. In my case, no children, but my STBXW still takes shots at me through e-mail that I don't respond to. Hurts deeply, but I know I have nothing other than the love I once shared with her. Your son is what is keeping you closer to your STBX and I can't imagine how much that must hurt. You HAVE to see/speak with him, so he will be able to take this little jabs at you for a long time. I'm not sure what to tell you as I don't have any experience of this behind me, but since your son has a cell -- maybe you could get a # change for yourself so he can't reach you anymore? That way when he has to contact you to speak about your son, it will be through your home phone where he can't leave you messages/texts?
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You are stuck in a difficult position trippi. In my case, no children, but my STBXW still takes shots at me through e-mail that I don't respond to. Hurts deeply, but I know I have nothing other than the love I once shared with her. Your son is what is keeping you closer to your STBX and I can't imagine how much that must hurt. You HAVE to see/speak with him, so he will be able to take this little jabs at you for a long time. I'm not sure what to tell you as I don't have any experience of this behind me, but since your son has a cell -- maybe you could get a # change for yourself so he can't reach you anymore? That way when he has to contact you to speak about your son, it will be through your home phone where he can't leave you messages/texts?
Yeah, I thought about trying to block his number or something, but if something were to happen with son, I have no choice to keep the line open. I think I just need to reset the boundaries and make him stick to them. It is harder when you have kids.
I've just learned to turn off the feelings when it comes to him, especially after the other night....It still just disgusts me that he could come over to the house unannounced and throw all these feelings that he still loves me and his girlfriend is oblivious to what he is up to. Just shows me the man he is becoming now and when I have to see him or talk to him, I just feel nothing....dead inside.
God wants her to know...
... that every relationship rests on three legs: accepting, supporting and challenging.
That's really it, isn't it? You want your relationships to be grounded on accepting each other as you are. On supporting each other through the inevitable ups and downs. On challenging each other to become more, to grow, to flourish. Which one of these is the more difficult one for you, and how are you going to practice it in the next 24 hours?
Sorry God.......LMAO, I think that question needed to be directed to the STBX. I've been practicing for 15 years.....seems he is the one that needs practice.
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