I think closure can come with time, and space, and keeping busy. That's what you're doing, but Space Ritual is 1000% on when it comes to abandoning the fantasy.
It's over. It has been over for some time now. We torture ourselves fantasizing about what could have/would have - when the future is out that door. Getting into the gym is part of it. The other part is actively participating in your future. Set new goals, achieve them - self esteem soars. Sing your songs, dance your dances. Confidence is sexy!
We meet new people and the cycle continues.
Try to focus on what you had, versus what you lost. And hang in there. You'll have your closure soon enough. A soft, warm, well-deserved closure. Someone great!
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Originally Posted by bluesky123
Space Ritual,
Your post sums up my relationship, however I'm not in a spirling depression. I know by creeping her FB is torturing myself, yet as you said it's the closure that bothers me. I would of never thought she was capable of this. As for the gym I use that as an example, when we first met I was involved in many sports, extra curricular activities etc, these activties along with my motivation slowly faded over the years. But that is all water under the bridge. As for now it would not work and I know that, see the cracks in our relationship, I know she's not COMING BACK. I'm a thinker and sometimes I think did I handle the breakup properly. I see many people trying to convince the ex to come back etc, I simple respected her wish and set her free. My answer is in her actions. I just got to stop wondering !
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