[Mrs_AJ]

Thanks for all your replies guys.

They've left me feeling a bit...embarrased again I think. I read them and thought this is what I would say to someone posting something similair to me.

I know...8 days. We did talk about it. Before he left I had texted him for 3 days, with no reply. He said that he had night shift, 12 hours, at the hospital and then came home drained and hit the bed.
When he texted back day 3 he only said " Where are you?? I'm online!!" Can you imagine how I felt? We usually text at least once/day so I was getting worried something had happened. I texted him back saying what a careless idiot he was etc. That text message upset him. He had sneaked in to use the internet at the hospital, something they are not allowed to do, to chat to me. We obviously did not chat. And he left that evening to a different Island for another 8 days ( I DID NOT KNOW THIS 'TILL HE WAS BACK).

I understand he didnt have access to his phone as it wasn't working. But Internet? Come on, you can get on the internet wherever you are, especially when surrounded with students with laptops.

What this has done is that it has made me question him. Not whether he is up to something, but just as a person that I may not cope with when it comes to communication. No, I don't feel he has ever purposefully tried to hurt me, even a small thing. But it may be that he is taking me for granted, and thinks that these things are minor.

2sunny - yes you're right. I think he is self-absorbed in himself and his studies. I suppose he has to be to survive it. I have never met him in person yet. I do feel I know him to a great extent though as we've been in LDR for over a year, chatting, talking and web cam. He was due to come here, but I had plans and then he couldn't make it. He is however coming in May10 to stay for a year.

I didnt receive a text from him last night either. What I hate about all of this is that it makes me feel a "weaker" person for letting these things go or a "needy" person who seems to be discussing issues all the time, asking for consistency.

These miscommunications are affecting me; affecting my studies, affecting my personality and I don't think it is healthy.

Is it possibly better to just back off and let him contact me when he wants to? I don't want to break up with him over this. He is a good guy overall, very good.

Thank you so much for your advice. It helps me to hear your objective perspective.