[name witheld]

Ok so I don't know if that last post is 100% accurate.
There is an undeniable logic behind it though, seems to be fuelled by not knowing what she is doing and just guessing really.

I'm pretty sure she was not seeing somebody else, at least as of last time we saw each other, as we had spent a lot of time together (weekends etc) leading up to NC.

Doesn't mean to say there isn't another guy involved, maybe its more she was not seeing somebody else YET.

Who cares, can't change it either way.
All we can do is stay in NC.

Sorry for ranting and hijacking your thread - stay NC it is better not knowing.

[jaco]

Just an update for anyone who cares...at the very least, it gives me a chance to get my thoughts out of my head and maybe make some more sense out of them.

Several people have been reaching out to me during this time and one of them happens to be this girl I've been off-an-on with for several years. We've always had a great time together, but something or someone has always kind of gotten in the way of it going forward seriously or getting past just "fooling around".

We've been talking and actually started dating. Things have been going really well. The only kicker now is that the ex is starting to come around and seems more open than ever to re-ignite things.

Ordinarily, I'd have a pretty good handle on what I need to do, but this whole break up, getting turned down, etc. hasn't had me thinking straight. Part of me feels like I should pursue things with the girl I'm dating now and spurn the ex who was hesitant to give me a second chance. Another part of me feels like I might be acting to feel the void left from the ex with the girl I'm dating now and that I should possibly explore things with the ex.

I know the answer's probably obvious, but I've just been so jacked up emotionally that I'm doubting my own judgement. Any advice?

[Enema]

I don't think you should date either of them.

You were seriously dating this girl for 2 years, you shouldn't jump straight to the next person that is willing.

Be single for a while and ditch the ex.

Two comments on her:
1) The guy was at her house. Sounds like she's been seeing him a while.
2) Now she's interested in you again, probably didn't work out with the other guy and you're her backup plan like you were all along.