[threebyfate]

I agree that foundational environment factors heavily in the types of partners we're attracted to. If you're raised with pain = love, where either physical or emotional violence is prevalent, that's what you're going to look for. If you don't find someone who meets this criteria, people will create it.

Of what I've seen on LS, not only do abusees go from one abusive relationship to another, sometimes they become abusers themselves or less often, actually heal.