[name witheld]

i've used LC and NC before with mixed success.
Depends on the situation and depends on the people.

I agree with pretty much what everyone has said though, you just have to take what you agree with and figure out how to apply it to your situation.

I'm in NC now after trying LC and it failed. It was tough on me at times, but when things were progressing it wasn't so bad.

NC or LC, in both cases for it to work the other person has to want it too. In the meantime if you can work out what went wrong and take time to work on yourself (happiness, gym etc) then it will go a long way to getting the other person closer to wanting you back (if its meant to be) or get you closer to closure (if its not).

After a while of LC you will either get back together or you will get so worn down that NC will become the only option.

LC has the advantage that it allows you to maintain communication and that can be helpful if its to be repaired. Big risk though as it may push them further away if its not the right option.
Plus the pain of being around them and not being with them as others have said.
I would say that if you had shown not enough attention or cheated then try LC. And try it slowly. Let her come to you, don't be the one doing all the running. If communication between you increases and you start meeting then you have a chance.
Don't be pushy and don't bring up the relationship.

NC gives both of you space and distance to think. it is tough because you wonder what the other person is doing, especially if you are considering negotiating. But it is a lot easier to decide what to do...because effectively you do nothing!
Ok so you heal and work on yourself but I mean in relation to her.
Unless contact is broken, then you have to approach in similar to LC.

Either way if it doesn't work out NC is inevetible.

[Confused728]

what is lc?

[sean1970]

Limited Contact.