Another thread oozing with denial.
The fact that the Cheaters (this OW/OM label is not reality) think this site is filled with bitter BS is sort of ironic and again give credence to their plight of deception.
It's not about being bitter, it's about pointing out that CHEATING IS WRONG!
I was an cheater and when the "wife" read me the riot act, I was not idiotic enough to think it was bitterness but a reality check!
I HAD NO RIGHT TO SLEEP WITH SOMEONE"S HUSBAND!!!! Period!
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It's not about being bitter, it's about pointing out that CHEATING IS WRONG!
I was an cheater and when the "wife" read me the riot act, I was not idiotic enough to think it was bitterness but a reality check!
I HAD NO RIGHT TO SLEEP WITH SOMEONE"S HUSBAND!!!! Period!
Off course we all know cheating is wrong but if they are asking how to cope with their BS that still stayed with them and all you can say is ''Oh how could you'' then you basically have answer nothing at all...
As for your wife acting out, off course she did since she was the one directly hurt by what you did. I meant total online strangers attacking you for no reason other than your ''I cheated on him/her'' story and actually asking for help...
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Off course we all know cheating is wrong but if they are asking how to cope with their BS that still stayed with them and all you can say is ''Oh how could you'' then you basically have answer nothing at all...
As for your wife acting out, off course she did since she was the one directly hurt by what you did. I meant total online strangers attacking you for no reason other than your ''I cheated on him/her'' story and actually asking for help...
I'm female, the wife was the wife of the man I was cheating with.
People are attacking you because what you did was wrong, simple as that!
Why is only one side heard because a rational discussion on this topic is a waste of time. Truly bitter people and fWS that become zealots against cheating always want to drag the discussion into name calling and insults.
Why is only one side heard because a rational discussion on this topic is a waste of time. Truly bitter people and fWS that become zealots against cheating always want to drag the discussion into name calling and insults.
So what is the point of getting into that?
No point at all unless the infidelity section is divided into two subforums.. The BS's stories and the WS's ones.... Then again, still the same crap... though I would think that the bitter ones would not even bother going to that section and instead answer in the BS, what they can relate best to...
People are attacking you because what you did was wrong, simple as that!
If I know what I did was wrong and I even stated many times already how I regretted it but want to know what to do and yet I were to have people telling me how it was wrong again or flaming me, I would go nuts and start attacking them back as well. Then more than likely the original thread would now become ''A War Threat''... I'll treat you how you treat me.. Insult me and I'll insult you right back....
The point is if you know you got nothing helpful to say other than ''You're such a selfish person... You wouldn't have cheated if...'' blah, blah, blah then don't waste your typing time. For sure it takes a whole deal of time writing insults and flaming as much as it took time for the WS to write their stories.
If I know what I did was wrong and I even stated many times already how I regretted it but want to know what to do and yet I were to have people telling me how it was wrong again or flaming me, I would go nuts and start attacking them back as well. Then more than likely the original thread would now become ''A War Threat''... I'll treat you how you treat me.. Insult me and I'll insult you right back....
The point is if you know you got nothing helpful to say other than ''You're such a selfish person... You wouldn't have cheated if...'' blah, blah, blah then don't waste your typing time. For sure it takes a whole deal of time writing insults and flaming as much as it took time for the WS to write their stories.
All I can say is, if you worry about flaming or insults, it's probably a good idea not to post in an open/public forum. Everyone had their own ideas, opinions, emotions and feelings about certain subjects.
All I can say is, if you worry about flaming or insults, it's probably a good idea not to post in an open/public forum. Everyone had their own ideas, opinions, emotions and feelings about certain subjects.
Yes the ever present excuse to be rude and nasty to someone you don't know.
Yes the ever present excuse to be rude and nasty to someone you don't know.
You know what, it is what it is. How rude and nasty is it to cheat on your SO? IMO, a whole lot more rude and nasty than flaming someone in an online forum.
So many WS come in here playing victim. It's all 'Poor me, SO did this, that, and something else.' 'I didn't mean to cheat, it just happened.' 'No use crying over spilled milk.' 'What's done is done.' etc, etc, make me . Even when a WS posts how they are so sorry for what they did, most of the time there are still excuses made.
I don't care if it is someone I know, or someone I don't know. I've been through the heartache of being cheated on, so I am going to empathize with the person who has been cheated on, and be disgusted with the cheater, regardless of which one is posting.
Cheaters whining about how mistreated they are in these forums is just more of the same old tired, 'Poor me' attitude. IMO, if a cheater was truly remorseful, they would be willing to take their lumps, along with help being offered. The fact that for the most part they are not goes a long way towards explaining why they are cheaters in the first place.
All I can say is, if you worry about flaming or insults, it's probably a good idea not to post in an open/public forum. Everyone had their own ideas, opinions, emotions and feelings about certain subjects.
True but you don't have to bring your load of garbage or so called ''bad experience'' onto someone else you don't even know.
That's called displacement anger, taking out on someone who has nothing to do with your issues but ok that's what I think....
That's probably a reason too there aren't that many WS's stories in comparing to BS's...
It's one thing to not agree with something, it's another to pass insults.. I guess it's hard for many to separate the action that took place in the story with the person...
True but you don't have to bring your load of garbage or so called ''bad experience'' onto someone else you don't even know.
That's called displacement anger, taking out on someone who has nothing to do with your issues but ok that's what I think....
That's probably a reason too there aren't that many WS's stories in comparing to BS's...
It's one thing to not agree with something, it's another to pass insults.. I guess it's hard for many to separate the action that took place in the story with the person...
Cheating and deception are emotionally heated topics, so there is boud to be insults, anger (displaced or otherwise) and resentment.
You can't control what others say/do, all you can do is control you by either not posting, posting and accepting others emotions or just plain ignoring.
Another thread oozing with denial.
The fact that the Cheaters (this OW/OM label is not reality) think this site is filled with bitter BS is sort of ironic and again give credence to their plight of deception.
It's not about being bitter, it's about pointing out that CHEATING IS WRONG!
I was an cheater and when the "wife" read me the riot act, I was not idiotic enough to think it was bitterness but a reality check!
I HAD NO RIGHT TO SLEEP WITH SOMEONE"S HUSBAND!!!! Period!
LOL, exactly....its like stabbing someone with a knife, person stabbed sees the person that stuck them as a piece of sh#t.....and the stabber goes...."YOU ARE HATEFUL!!!!!"......uh.........ok
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. Even when a WS posts how they are so sorry for what they did, most of the time there are still excuses made. 
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