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Originally Posted by bobcaticus
Hi
My girlfriend is having our baby, and as much as she loves me, she hates my brother. Because of a couple of incidents that happened ages ago she feels as though he wants to split us up, which maybe he did but I forgave him.
She harbors a grudge against my brother and she wants me to tell him that he's not allowed to hold or touch our baby. I don't feel comfortable doing that but she says that it's either I tell him, or she leaves with the baby.
As much as my bro can be an ass, he's still my brother, and I love him, but I also love my girlfriend so much, I don't want to lose her. But why should I have to lose one part of my family for her? I don't want to be seen as a "traitor" or as someone who doesn't care for my family. Her family all agree with her, with the general idea that her family is more perfect than mine. However, though my family aren't perfect, we love each other a lot and they'd look after me and our baby. If I tell my family this then they'll think I'm an evil person who doesn't care for my family, but if I don't I'm worse for "always siding" with my family.
I'm losing either way, it's either I lose the trust of my brother, and his love, or I lose my girlfriend and our baby.
She won't even listen or take the time to compromise with me, and she wants me to do it.
Am I being selfish? What should I do?
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As often happens on LS, you gives us lots of detail but leave out the most important parts. What are the "incidents" that occured between your GF and your brother? You don't even give the smallest clue. How can you expect a helpful response if you won;t say what's wrong?
That said, from what you do say, your GF needs to grow up.