[DapsyD]

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year now. She is 16 and I am 18. She doesn't want me to do practically anything without her and insists that we spend almost all of our time together, she attends the same school as me so this adds up to be a lot of time. I tell her that healthy couples have their own lives as well but this just upsets her and she won't accept it, she arranges things for us to do days in advance, this results in me rarely doing something with my friends and when I do, she usually ends up coming.

Due to this insane amount of time that we spend together I get snappy with her and this causes arguments along with other things causing them, such as her distrust of me and getting angry with me when I have done nothing wrong, yet in her eyes she thinks I have.

After all this I know that I have fallen out of love with her, I still care about her but not in the same way. I originally told her that I stopped loving her about a month ago, she was truly devestated and cried on my for hours and hours, repeatedly begging me not to leave her. After this onslaught I became weak and agreed not to leave her, the next few days were also hell, with her bursting into tears many times a day. This also made me weak and so I told her I loved her again.

I have since attempted to break-up a couple more times but have not been able to tell her that I don't love her again. I have just given my reason as I wasn't happy with her and we didn't work as a couple. She told me that none of that mattered as long as we loved each other. She also says that she has given everything up for me (friends, family, etc) which is partly true and this makes me feel even more awful. Each time I ended up breaking and telling her that I wouldn't leave her.

Since then she has appeared to be oblivious to the fact that I have tried to break-up several times or she is blocking it out of her mind and acts like everything is fine.

I just want to be out of this relationship and start living the life that I want to lead but faced with what I do to her when I try and tell her this, I don't know how to?

Please help

[Toji]

If this is what you want you need to grow a backbone. Just do it and leave. Don't let her cry on your shoulder, don't let her manipulate you into saying you love her. You're actually just making the inevitable break-up harder on her by saying those things. She is young, and while it will be hard, she will move on with time. Like I said, the longer you put this off the harder it's going to be on her.

[tikigods]

The longer you put this off the harder it will get. Girls, and even guys, will say everything under the sun in order to get the other person to not let go of the relationship. The thing is that its up to you to grow a backbone and tell her that this is the end and nothing will change that. After that I would suggest no contact at all

[DapsyD]

Well, its done. She was really devestated. Thank you to those who posted replies.

It feels like I have a weight off my chest

I just hope she takes the sensible route and doesn't try to contact me

[littlepiggy1]

As devasted as she may be, it's the right thing in the long run for both you and her.