[hurtbeyondwords]

it will be 2 months this sunday since my gf broke up with me. All the pictures, cards, memories are in a drawer which I have not opened since the breakup. I know that I will not be able to hold onto these things forever so I want to know when I should part with them. Even though I do not look at them I feel that I'm not ready to let go yet. At the same time I am afraid that by keeping all of it, Im keeping a part of her with me. I really don't need hope. Any thoughts? when or did you "let go" of those memories?

[pandnh4]

well, with my relationship last year i kind of held onto pics of my ex and me in a box for about 7 months but those pics were all mixed in with others... i just never really dug into that box for some reason... it wasn't until i started dating another young lady that i made an effort to destroy all of them... i had also destroyed a scrapbook, however, maybe 4-6 weeks after the breakup...
this time around, it's been over 3 weeks since my most recent breakup and i destroyed everything digital (computer pics, letters, emails) very quickly, and otherwise i still have some things left in a box... i just add to it whenever i find something that reminds me of her... kind of hard to toss that one though...

[CaliGuy]

Originally Posted by hurtbeyondwords

it will be 2 months this sunday since my gf broke up with me. All the pictures, cards, memories are in a drawer which I have not opened since the breakup. I know that I will not be able to hold onto these things forever so I want to know when I should part with them. Even though I do not look at them I feel that I'm not ready to let go yet. At the same time I am afraid that by keeping all of it, Im keeping a part of her with me. I really don't need hope. Any thoughts? when or did you "let go" of those memories?

When I booted her from the house, I took everything that reminded me of her, sealed it in a box and put it in an area deep in the closet. I had forgotten about it until you just reminded me.

I find that it's a decent compromise. I haven't destroyed them but I can't exactly browse them all the time either.

Only time will tell what I decide to do with the box. But, for right now it's out of arms reach.

[MatchstickFear]

ducktape the box, just for good measure....

[hurtbeyondwords]

Im thinking that I may put everything in a box and send it home to my parents. They have a bunch of my stuff in the garage.

[fooled]

Yeah - don't destroy that stuff - you will want to look at it in 20 years. I did, though - I trashed a whole bunch of stuff - even my stuff that reminded me of her. Linens, T-shirts she would wear to bed - I trashed em. I kept a few things, some digi photos and a b-day card. One day I may like to look at them and not remember it was phony.