[jimeny]

Well basically me and my ex girlfriend recently met too catch up as she had been away at university for 3 months.... I found out that she still misses me and that she still realy likes me.. She said she had a fling with a guy but said it felt too weird doing that.
We got talking and there was talk of a possibilty of us getting back together. She brought this up first. We then persued to talk about it but she was unsure because she was worried that things that happened before would again.
Thing was when we were together we were going through our final exams and we had alot of stress's and worries about them, and all my worries and stress's came out in paranoia and this created tension between us.
Now that we arnt in exams and aren't under pressure from them i KNOW that i wouldnt be like this again.
But me being like that she doesnt want to risk it happening again and she cant see past this and i cant seem to reassure her from this.
I need some advise for a way to bring her back because i like her soooo much. Her friend says she still realy likes me and she even told me herself that she misses me and thinks about me still and that we had such a great time together. But i dont understand why she doesnt want to take the risk of us trying it out again...

What do you think i should do. Should i leave the whole situation alone or persue it or give it some time and see what happens!

I like her so much and want to give it all a try again cause we did have the best time together it was just a shame that it was at that point of time!

ps sorry for the poor vocab

[ryginn]

Im new to these forums and im not an expert, but I'll try to help you out.

It sounds like you care for her and really want to make things work between you. It also sounds like shes afraid to be hurt and doesn't know if you're right for her.

Make sure you know exactly what was wrong before. It might not just have been the stress from exams, but a combination of things as well. What you have to do is convince her that things are going to be different. (Because if you care for her, then they are!! )

Find ways of showing her that it'll be different. Prove that it'll be different. Ask her to give you a date... so that you can prove yourself. Then, prove that things will be Great. Be romantic, and give her a reason to come back to you.

The amount you care for her is reflected in the amount of work that you put into the relationship.

I hope that helps,
Good Luck

[jimeny]

Thanks that is alot of help for me... I think im definatley gona take this idea and try it. Maybe try it less forward by just going out together rather than saying its a date and try have some fun and prove that it will be worth everything......

Thank you for that i think its something im definatley going to work with to try to get her back.....