[Free At Last]

As the leaves turn and the air becomes somewhat chilled.... I have started to have these strange new thoughts enter my head: 'Maybe I should settle down into a relationship now that winter is on its way'. This seems to be a natural thing - I notice that there is a trend of couples getting together in the fall and breaking up in the spring. Can't mess with biology I guess...

As this is happening, I have a few 'part time' lovers. None of these relationships are going to go anywhere, but they fill a need. I enjoy them, and am not likely to become emotionally attached. But for some reason I feel like maybe I should cut them off while I look around for 'the right one'.

I'm really serious about creating a good relationship with someone who has long term potential. I don't see this as a moral question... morally I am comfortable continuing my fwb situations until the right one comes along.

My question is more... by having friends with benefits am I hindering myself from my goal in a way that I might not see? Will it get in the way of me being able to find and be attractive to the person I want to be with when I find her?

[brittanyjean259]

if nothing is going any where with these ladies, than whats the point...yeah you get" what you want...." but if you are looking for a lady who can show you real meaning to" sex" haha....than yeah i think itd be nice for you to stop with these girsl.

youll be more prepared for your new relationship( when you get one)....and when you find someone you really do like, you could regret some of those things you did with those girls...( not that most guys do)....

[Free At Last]

Hi Britanny...

In what ways will I be more prepared? And I consider intimacy a need, not a want.... I'm getting what I need now - thats the foundation of my relation to these women. Its a mutual benefit.

I'm pretty sure I won't regret having been with these women when I do make the transition into a more fulfilling relationship. I think of these women in a positive way - I learn from them and I enjoy their company. In a small way, I am a better person for the time spent with them.

Is there a reason that I should remove them from the equation? I feel like there might be but I can't find it.

[Lishy]

why are these girls suitable for you to have sex with but not as a LTR? Just curious!

[Free At Last]

My standards for a sexual partner vs life partner are very different things. Also, I find it much easier to find people that I am sexually compatible with than relationship compatible. Isn't that normal?

[Lishy]

explain to me why you wouldnt choose you f-buddies as life partners?

No you are not wrong I am just curious