What would you define as long distance?

Tamrick · 29th September 2005, 4:04 PM

I feel like I have a semi long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We live an hours drive from each other - we see each other about four times per week, but basically live at each other homes then - I finish work at 18:30, arrive at his house around 19:30 and then leave at 06:00 in the morning to be back home in time for work. Weekends are spent one weekend at his house, one at mine (but that is cause I work every second weekend) He gets to my house anytime between 17:30 and 19:00 when he comes here and leaves between 05:45 and 08:00 the next morning depending on his work hours.

What kind of a relationship is this - it seems part long distance and part living together - he keeps clothes at my house in case he forgets something when he comes and it is rather like we both have two houses - I take my dogs to his house when I go there.

I desperately want to get married and part of it is about all the travelling. By the time I have worked from 08:00 til 18:30 I'm exhausted and to travel so far for only a few hours awake seems a bit much.

Art_Critic · 29th September 2005, 4:09 PM

I would consider your relationship a ldr but tougher than the norm because
you live close enough that you have to see each other more than in your typical ldr...

I would suggest talking about moving closer together or moving with each other

d'Arthez · 29th September 2005, 4:17 PM

I would not call it LDR. The distance is still easily traversable with a car, every day if necessary. Sure, it is far from ideal, but you get to see each other quite often in every week. And that is something people in a LDR cannot say.

If it is really uncomfortable, try moving closer to each other, or even - and that is something that really depends on the circumstances, and planning - move in with each other.

Tamrick · 29th September 2005, 4:25 PM

I don't want to move in with him til we are married and that is another story all together. I have considered moving closer but I live at my work so I would have to get a new job to move and again I'd rather wait til marriage else its two big moves. He owns the house he is in now so cannot just move either. I'm planning on doing something about it in six months if nothing has changed before then.