[backatone]

The saga continues. You all know she left me (wanted a time out to figure her life out) and I immediately did no contact. A month later she calls me.......yadda yaddda.........a few calls later I said I need my stuff back and she says fine........then I never hear from her.

A week later I said I need her address so I can send her referral money that I told her I would give her if she got me some business. Then i hear nothing from her for a couple weeks, and tonight I get this email. She was sick and in the hospital.....cant pay her hospital bill because she has no insurance. I feel kinda bad, but after reading it I immediately got furious. This girl that was suppose to be in love with me, goes to the hospital and I dont even get a f^cking call?? Like I meant nothing to her at all. Closest guy in her life for 2 years and then I dont even know that she is ill as all hell. I am beyond bitter now. Im furious.

Maybe I am way in left field here (no offense democrats). I dont even want to respond. But then part of me wants to ring her neck in the email and tell her exactly how I feel. I dont know if she just had too much pride to call me. But come on!! Then I dont want her to think I am an ass for not responding. But she did not even call me when she was hospitilized. I feel like I meant nothing to her.

Please advise.......

[Pocky]

And maybe she's thinking, "Well I'm sick now and I just told him that I needed some time to figure out my life so what am I going to do? Suddenly call him now that I have no one else? He's going to think I'm just using him or get angry that now when I'm in need he's good enough, but not good enough when everything is okay. I told him I needed time so I should stick to it like I said and not put him in a position where he feels he's being taken advantage of."

[alphamale]

do nothing and say nothing.

[tattoomytoe]

my sister who was uninsured had a car wreck, and huge bill. she wrote to the finance dept. and requested a payment plan. she was no longer able to work, and was laid up for a good 4 months. the waived her ebntire bill! and this is in the DC Metro area, not some po-dunk town.

so there are ways to pay your bills, or get them deffered, or lessened. SO DO NOT FEEL GUILTY.
But this is all her responsibility to find out, not yours.
Just send her the money, maybe a get well card, along too. but that would be enough.

[backatone]

You know I want to do what alpha says just because I am so pist off at this girl. I am still a little undecided.

[strange love]

You seem very angry

I was thinking about your situation and mine. I know I have a tendacy to get angry as well. I was thinking about how I ended up in the hospital after being robbed in my shop and how I wondered if my ex would find out and I remember not wanting my parents to know, because they would worry too much.

Women generally want a man to be empathic, I have a feeling yoru worried you wil get suckered into paying her bills, maybe all she wants is some affection and for you to listen to her.

[backatone]

I dont think that she wants me to pay any of her bills. She is having problems asking her parents for money to help out already. She has WAY to much pride to ask me I think. I would not help her anyways. I would if we were together, but not now.

I want to email her back and sympathise with her but, it was not serious enough to call me from the hospital!! Obviously. Or she would have. But it was serious enough to tell me about it when she got out. Go figure. Its been 2 days since I got the email and I still have not wrote back. I am still undecided as to wether or not I should tell her REALLY how I feel and my anger about the situation, or do not reply at all.

Whatdaya think?