Me and my girlfriend were talking on the phone the other day about sex. She asked me what I thought about it and if I was just one of those guys who HAD to get laid before college or if I wanted to find someone I cared about first. I told her it didn't matter when it was, before or during or after, as long as it was with someone I truly cared about.

Then she was like, "Yeah, well I don't know, I really want my first time to be with someone I care about... But I think before college is probably too early." So, while I do respect this decision, it kind of worried me. I have had plenty of girlfriends, but none of them can even come close to this one, and I really do, or did want her to be my first experience.

I am also worried she is making this decision for the wrong reasons.. IE. she thinks all of her friends would consider her a slut, or maybe she just set an age limit and was like even if I really love someone I wont have sex with them until I am this old. Anyways I guess another problem for me is I really do want to spend the rest of high school with her (I am a junior) but honestly I would like to have sex before I graduate. Also we have been dating about 2 months, this is the longest she has ever dated anyone.

We have touched each other and she keeps telling me about how sometime we are going to take a shower naked together and all sorts of stuff like that. But to me its like, why is she so comfortable with all of that, but not sex?

Which brings me to another question.. What do women think of guy virgins? I don't want to be thought of as a loser or anything because I have never had sex and I don't want for a girl to leave more or just stop liking me because of it. Ladies? thoughts?

[Debster]

I've had my share of male virgins, and I held nothing against them... except of course my naked body.
The good thing about being their first is the ability to know that you were the first to do those things with them and teach them how you like it, as opposed to how the other women they were with liked it.

As for your girlfriend, she sounds curious but I would wait for her to make a more solid gesture of wanting to get busy.

Decide what is more important - getting laid or your girl.