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Old 5th September 2004, 5:10 AM   #1
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More than a one night stand?

Here goes...
I met this guy at a club and went back to his place for what I thought would be a one night stand...
It turned out to be a little more than I bargained for...
The next morning he took me and his kids out for breakfast (yes, his two young kids).
Then he dropped me home.
We didn't swap numbers, he just let me know that he is always at that club where we met and told me he had seen me there before.

The next week I bumped into him again with a group from my work. He was very loving towards me, so I ended up with him again. He told me he had thought of me during the week but didn't have my number.
He was hugging on me all night while I slept and mumbled once "see we found each other".....
We talked for hours the next morning and he drove me home again.
This time I gave him my phone number.
He hasn't called as of yet and it's been a week (only).
I'm curious to see if other people think he's just seeing me as "easy" and saying things he thinks I want to hear or if he's interested in me as something other than sex. By getting to know him I quite like him now, so I'd be a little upset if he wasn't interested.
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Old 6th September 2004, 5:38 AM   #2
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This guy is plainly using you. I have been in this situation before, and if a guy is interested in you for more than just a one night stand, he would call you. Lots of guys seem to have a fear of commitment.

Dont call him, just let him do the calling.

Good Luck to u
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Old 6th September 2004, 7:43 AM   #3
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I'd say. give him time. Obviously he's got kids, so i was once either hurt or something went wrong... i think he is only taking things slowly. (very slowly - men are like that!)

The other thing is - he sounds like a decent and nice guy - caring father anyway...

And yes - sorry - but you are tooo easy. You are not supposed to "jump" into someone bed like that - and the other thing is that you should know by now that men say alot of thing "while in bed" not because they want to but because they think they should...
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Old 6th September 2004, 7:56 AM   #4
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Hello

If you only wanted a one night stand with him...................why even worry about him? Next!

On the other hand, what do you think a man thinks of with you giving him sex and you know nothing of him?

I am not sure where your mind is on this one. In the world of aids and all kind of other stuff, one night stands are very dangerous. Which I am sure you know. So if you just enjoy one night stands and sex with strangers that is your choice, however, if you "think" that you want a relationship, a healthy relationship to come out of this one or any other "one night stands" then there is a huge problem with you that needs to be fixed.

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Old 6th September 2004, 10:23 PM   #5
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thanks for replying...

I don't make a habit of sleeping with anyone...
To be really honest, I have had one night stands in the past...but not for years...
I've been in a long term relationship, broke up over a year ago, was out with the girls and got talking to the guy at the club and got along great so I thought, why not...
And yes I know the risks.
I wasn't...and am still NOT looking for a relationship....But if he was to call me...ask me out or something, I'd probably say yes purely because we got along really well and he made me laugh wickedly. That on it's own made it worth while.

And it's not like he went with me because I was easy as he had other woman practically trying to sleep with him there and then....he didn't want anything to do with them.
Another curious thing he said was "you'll lose interest in two weeks anyway"....I couldn't pick him up on it as he quickly went off on some other subject...
Another thing....a woman came up to me at the club and said "he's a really nice guy who has been through the mill a few times...if you don't like him just come and sit with us".....strange!!

Urgh! It's stupid of me...I know, but I'm really curious as to what he's thinking.
Because we spent a lot of time talking, I got to know him and found him to be a really nice guy.
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Old 7th September 2004, 11:46 AM   #6
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any news yet?

keep us posted!

i think the other girls are only jealous! dont you worry.
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