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I have been with my guy for 3 years. We broke up twice in the past year for a couple months. And always got back together because he came back. This time he is totally different. Tells me and my family I am the one and we are going to get married within the next two years. meaning get engaged in one and married in two.

It was very hard getting back with him the time because I had thought it was really over this time and was dating someone I really liked. But the guy after two months of dating broke it off saying he thinks he will just hurt me and I am so good of a girl and I am the last girl on earth that deserves that. So we stayed Friends. now that I am back he acts like he is all interested. Asking me to dinner...and saying he wants a second chance and he wasn't SMART ENOUGH to take the chances when he has it. I said really he said nah...he is kinda a jerk at time...he says its his humor but sometimes it hurts even if he is kidding. I know that my heart is with him. But that he doesn't deserve me...he broke things off for no reason. And no he wants me what because I have someone else? But I can't seem to stop thinking about him. And I can't let myself let go of him and give my guy 100% of me to fall back in love with him. I love being with him...and I love him I just don't feel physically attracted to him as much...I can defeinitly do without all lot and that isn't right.

I am just so scared that I am letting my feelings for a guy that shouldn't matter get in the way of a great thing. any advice for those who are or have been married...

[HokeyReligions]

Have you told guy #1 about guy #2? Have you made a commitment to guy #1? If you have, then you should discuss your feelings and confusion with him.

It doesn't sound like you are ready to settle down with one person yet. There is nothing wrong with that -- but it's not fair to string guy #1 along. He needs to know how you feel, and if you feel you still need to date guy#2, or even meet and date others for a while, then it's only fair to both of you to agree to not be in a committed relationship right now.

Length of time with someone doesn't mean that you should feel or do certain things by certain mile-markers.