[shirley]

Hi there, i have fall in love with a woman (Jane) and she has feeling for me too. We had been together for about 3 yrs. At that time, our relationship cannot be openly discussed cause i have another girl. Just few months back, she felt that she wanted a normal relationship and she decided to go with another guy but in her heart, she still have me.

Now, i have broken off with my girl cause i feel that Jane is the one for me. She loves her boyfriend now, but in her, she admitted that i have a place in her heart.

The only way now for her to come back to me is for her to break off with her boyfriend.

Is there any way to break off their relationship?

They just started for about few months........

Please help......I really love Jane a lot........

[Debster]

If you loved her, why did you make her your OW for three years.

Now she has a chance for a relationship with someone who will make her #1 and you want to take that away from her? If you TRULY loved her, you would want her to be happy.

[shirley]

Debster, i thank you for your comment.

i do agreed with what u say to certain extend. i am just fighting to get a girl that i love with my heart and soul.
i still have a place in her heart and she also admit that i am better than her bf is all areas. is just that she loves him more than she loves me. she will come back to me if there is not such guy around.

one thing i can be sure is that i love her more than her bf love her. with this, she can be very sure that i will take good care of her for the rest of her life. this cannot be said with that guy cause that guy does not love her more that she loves that guy.

that is y i want to get her back to give her the happiness she deserves.

so do u have any idea to help me

[shirley]

hi everyone,

is there anyone out there can help me with this problem of mine?

Jane had a big argument with her bf over a photo that was taken with me.
she had kept the photos in her wallet and her bf saw it.

she explained that we are just friends and in the end
her bf accepted the explaination with doubts.

i feel that this is a good time for me to win her back.

any suggestion, pls help.

thks

[fanou22]

Shirley,

Did you realize you love Jane after she left you???????
Are you saying you want to spend the rest of your life with her????
Have you considered proposing to her????

You did not reply to Debster as to why you cheated on your other gf in the first place.
Maybe Jane thinks that you will cheat on her like you did on your first gf.........(just a thought)

[shirley]

fanou22,

thks for your comment.

i realized i love her before she left me.
i sincerely wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.
I wanted to, i even bought the diamond ring. but i never do it cause i know she will not accept it.

the feeling i had for jane just come naturally after we spend about 2~3 years together.
I tried to suppressed the feeling, but sad to say, i cannot. that is why i fall for her in the end.

I really need ideas on how to win her back or break off her relationship with her bf.

anyone can help me???

Please........

[fanou22]

Shirley,
The only thing I coould think of is write her a detailed letter telling her how you feel. Include a time frame for a response after which if she does not respond, you would have to will yourself to accept her decision, wish her best luck and move on.
I would even suggest including the ring to know that you are serious (that's up to you)

[shirley]

fanou22,

she already know how i feel for her. she even admitted that i am better than her bf in almost all areas.

example:
1. i love Jane more than her bf love her.
2. i care for her more.
3. in terms of career, i am better.

the only thing i lose to her bf is that Jane love him more than loving me.
that all.

do u agree that for a girl, is it better to be with a man who loves u more rather than a man that u love more?
the reason is that the man who love u more will surely put in 101% to care for u and etc.
but if the girl choose the man she loves more, then she will have to take care of that man and that man might leave her one day.

await your comment......

[Debster]

C'mon - move on. It will hurt, yes. It will take a while, yes. But you can't make someone want to be with you or love you. What you are doing now is chasing her and will make her feel pity, not love. Why is this such a hard concept to grasp?

[fanou22]

Shirley,

Often times the answer lies within the question you ask. Unfortunately it seems that she had made the choice. If you really love her then be happy for her. Let her know that you will always love her and be happy for her whomever she chooses to be with.