Hi everyone,

I dont really know what to say, i am married for 3 years know my wife for 4 .
My wife found a 3 year old email from me to another woman, the email was pretty graphic. She hates me now and I dont know what to do, i really love my wife.

We had just gotten married (6 months) and at the time she was having a lot of issues coping with the idea of being married.
Basically, she would tell me how better her ex's were and how she had options to go to, this was going on everyday, I was depressed at the time since i had lost my job and had to get the first offer that came accross, that coupled with some really bad money problems and she was having some real issues with loving me at the time, one day I was approached over an online game by this woman, that wrote this sexual message, against all better judgment i wrote back, the email got really nasty, I realized what I was doing a couple of days later and stopped all contact, blocked her off my list, everything, and never done anything like that again.

I am hurting my wife as i know she held me to a higher standard since she has been cheated before. I dont know what to do, i love my wife more than anything in this world, and now that we had our life together. She doesn't even want to talk to me now and wants to leave me, i cant live without her. She is everything to me.

I have made an appointment with a marriage counselor, and I hope this will work out.

What she keeps asking and I dont know what else to say, is why?
All I know is that i was weak at the time and that i was unsure on my marriage, i think that i was weak and i cracked,
please if anyone has any advise or similar situation, please reply.

Thank you.

[Arabess]

It was THREE years ago??

If you've been faithful from that time until now....there really isn't much you can do except hope the counsellor will point it out...as I'm sure he/she will. Once she faces her fears....maybe she will put this all in a proper focus.

She is upset now and certainly has a reason to be...but I bet after realizing you didn't repeat your previous actions....she will forgive you. It may take some time....but with help you can work this out.

As for YOU....no more CYBER SEXING!!

Thank you for the words.
I have been talking to my wife now and we have been talking of therapy, and how we can work it out.
Of course this will take a long time for her to trust me, or even let me near her, but I love her and I want to be there for her forever.

I hope to God that this gets workout, I dont know what to do if I am not with her.

Thank you.