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Old 12th February 2004, 6:01 PM   #1
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Angry can a perosn go back back after cheating?

I began dating this man 3 years ago, at the time he was seperated from his wife. We began dating and got engaged quickly. We moved in together and he went through a very messy divorce. Things were very good betwen us up until 8 months ago. He started acting funny and never wanted to be home. We took his kids on a vacation and when we got home, he left for a weekend to be by himself to think. When he came home he suggested I move back to my mom's so he can have some time. I left but 5 days after I left he met this marriged woman and began sleeping with her for a few months. He was still seeing me and having relations with me. Then last month it seemed the best thing happened, he said he really want eo trya nd make things work with me. he broke off from what he said relations with the married woman and wanted to see where this was going to go. Well It all happend again. He told me now that he and the ex-wife who put him through a lot of crap during thier divorce, and were goingto try and make things work again. He says they are in the beginging stages of talking to see where things will go. Now the ex-wife know about him chearting on her with me and how he was sleeping with the married woman. Is there any hope for him and I, or is it complety over. He says there is no chance for us it's over and I need to move on, but he is still calling me and says things to me. I also know he is still talking to the married girl. Can a perosn change? Can you find your attraction again in someone? Help
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I was engaged to a man who left his wife. We were living together and things seemed great up until 8 months ago. He went away for a weekend and asked me to move out. He said he did not know where things were going to go. After I moved out he met a married women and began sleeping with her. He and I saw each other on occasion and had relations together. then it was almost like a dream come true. Last month he told me things were over between him and the married girl and he wanted to work things out with me. Now this month, he just said to me that he and his ex-wife were going to try and make things work agian. He says they are just talking, and he can no long see me or have relations with me. The ex- wife knows that he cheated on her with me and that he was sleeping with this married woman. Can it truly work out between him and the ex-wife again. He still talks to me and the married woman, but the wife has no idea. He says he does not know what is going to happen with any of this. He has 2 kids with the ex-wife, but he is not attracted to her. He says he is very attracted to me and loves us both. But he feels like he never gave the ex a fair shot at trying to make things work. What do I do, I love him very much. HELP!!!
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Old 12th February 2004, 6:24 PM   #2
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He wants his cake and eat it too. Sounds like he is a player and that he will never be 100% yours. You deserve better. I feel you should walk away to save YOUR sanity.
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Old 12th February 2004, 8:36 PM   #3
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The fact that

your relationship happened so fast and you moved in quickly is a warning sign right there. Sounds like whenever things get rough he looks to someone else, first you, now the married woman. And he probably never resolved the issues from his marriage, so that's why he's negotiating with his ex wife again.

Personally I couldn't trust someone who was clearly undecided about what he wanted.
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Old 12th February 2004, 8:42 PM   #4
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leave him, you deserve better.
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