How can i be a good girlfriend. I don't want to be overbearing or annoying. I want to be the kind of girl whos boyfriend wants to be around her and she's fun and makes him happy all the time.

[town and country]

I'm not a guy, but I think a lot would agree when I say - you should just be yourself!

After all, I imagine that he's seeing you because he like you just as you are.

Kinda reminds me of that old saying:

"A woman can spend her whole life changing a man, but then he's not the man she met"

It's sort of the reverse of that - if you try too hard to please him all the time, not stressing and dancing to his tune - you'll compromise your own personality.

I think guys just have to accept that we're stressy sometimes! My only real advice from a 'been there done that' perspective is

don't sweat the small stuff!! - and pick your battles carefully.

[jmargel]

You don't want to be a June Cleaver, otherwise he won't respect you like he should. Just in general terms. Personally I like when my girl is sassy at times, and sports an attitude. Very rarily does she do that. The only thing that would upset me, is if we got into an argument and she threatened to leave, etc..

Like the previous poster, he fell in love with you for who you are. Just remember to be respectful, loving & fun. And never get too comfortable where you take things for granted. Love like its the last day you'll see that person.

Originally posted by Sheriapple
How can i be a good girlfriend. I don't want to be overbearing or annoying. I want to be the kind of girl whos boyfriend wants to be around her and she's fun and makes him happy all the time.

Laugh at his jokes.
Say nice things about his friends (but be sincere--don't make stuff up, but look for the good in his friends & his family)
Bake him a cake for no reason.

I know that he fell in love with me for who I am, but lately he doesn't seem as loving. Awile ago we had a very short breakup because he felt overwelmed being in a relationship. He's only 16 so i understand that he might get confunsed somtimes. We're young, so we all do. But he's said that sometimes i'm mean. I don't want to be mean, I love him. It's this love that makes me insane sometimes. But i want to know how i can make him happy because he means the world to me.

Is it true that if i show him too much love or i call him too much that he will lose interest and that if i ignore him a little or whatever then he'll be more attracted to me? Because sometimes i try to kiss him and he seems uninterested (this hurts a lot)

[dlb311]

its true men fall in love with you for you. But people are changing all the time. You have to learn to adapt to the changes. Or your relationship will not work. I think to much can hurt and not enough can hurt a relationship. If you are way young like 16 it hurts I know I got my heart broken for the first time when I was 17. You feel like its the end but its not. Life has only begun. If you make it through the rest then congrates but remember you can love more the one person in your life time.

I think you should always be yourself. But I personally have issues with abandonment so there is times I have to catch myself being to clingy no one likes that girls or guys. So you feel him pulling away just kick back stop and think for a minute and just relax. when he sees you are not freakin out then he will be normal. And guys well in my experience come on very strong the wooo there mate and once they have the mate they don't try as hard. (some)

YOu can never change a person.... but you can change yourself. So if you boyfriend like mine has decided he is way to young to plan the future but knows I am the one.... I have to sit back and say I know too... we are young and let life do its thing. I wont be upset because he has stopped talking about marriage or kids it just means that right now you have other things to focus on...