Can you love a bi-sexual man if he was willing to be loving and faithful ?
Can you love a bi-sexual man if he was willing to be loving and faithful ?
would you love him ?
or would his sexuality be a problem ? Most people are cool with bi females. Society thinks gay males are cool. (Queer eye for the straight guy, Will & Grace) but bi-sexual males are ignored and must live in secret or in shame. Either they lead straight lives or must conform by becoming exclusively gay which doesn't suit them since they actually feel attracted to women and fall in love sometimes.
Could I fall in love? Sure. I don't consider bisexuality in any way "more shameful" than homosexuality. Bisexual men actually seem to have some good emotional qualities, from the little I know of them. I do consider it more complicated and confusing than heterosexuality.
Would I want to marry him? Hmmmmmmm....it seems really risky. Could he truly be faithful to a woman and feel good about it? And there are the health issues. Men who have had sex with men are at higher risk for HIV and other STDs.
If they are to be monogomous, then it should be fine.
Every man or woman will, at times, find someone other than their spouse attractive.
It is OK as long as they never act on it.
I do not see a bi- person as being any different.
I do not think being bi- makes them less likely to be faithful, but I really do not know.
I also don't see being bi makes one less faithful - the personal choices are just that - personal and it doesn't matter the sexual orientation, it matters the commitment and integrety of the person.
Could I marry or have a relationship with a bisexual man? No. I understand all the lovely little technicalities that society touts now about homo- and bi-sexuals. The majority of the people who post on this board seem to think that anything other then heterosexuality is perfectly fine and normal, etc. I don't care what a persons sexual orientation is - its none of my business, unless I'm dating a man and he tells me that he's had intimate relationships with other men, then it becomes my business and I have as much right to my opinions and beliefs as anyone. I think its unnatural and it would bother me, and he would be history. -- best for both of us. Go ahead - bash away!
Originally posted by Guest
I I don't care what a persons sexual orientation is - its none of my business, unless I'm dating a man and he tells me that he's had intimate relationships with other men, then it becomes my business
No bashing here Guest. I feel exactly the same way. I don't care what anyone's sexual preference is, even as a good friend, unless they are someone I am intimate with. If a guy told me he was 'bi'...I would no longer be sexually attracted to him. Whether he would be faithful or not would be a mute point for me.
I'd be fine with it but I would want major assurances that there were and would never be health issues because of it.
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I for one say a bi man can make a perfectly decent husband or boyfriend. if his female consort were to be accepting of him, all would be well and they would live well together. Did you know that in Greek and Roman times being bi-sexual was highly encouraged ? Emperors and politicians as well as warriors were forthrightly bi-sexual.
Someone who was exclusively heterosexual was seen as a bit strange. there are two options, why not enjoy both ?
the same went for Homosexuality, if exclusive. It was fruitless....one had a duty to the state to marry and have children.
How times have changed......
Examples of famous bi-sexuals :
Alexander the Great (356-323 BC) and the poet Pindar of Thebes.
Other great poets and philosophers of Ancient Greece are also rumored to be gay. These include Anacrean (563-478 BC), Euripedes (480-406 BC), Sophocles (496-406 BC), Socrates (470-399 BC), and Plato (427-347 BC).
the Roman Emperor, Hadrian (76-138 AD)
Julius Caesar (100-44 BC) Antinous Pius (86-161 AD).
Some Ancient homosexual Roman poets included Horace (65-8 BC), Ovid (43 BC-17 AD), and Virgil (70-19 BC). Virgil admitted his infatuation for Augustus (Octavian) in his poem, Eclogues. Another Ancient Roman poet who was gay was Seneca (4?BC-65 AD). He described how his lover was “passive” in his lovemaking.
Early British kings are also thought to be bisexual : King Richard I the Lion-hearted (1157-1199) and Phillip II (1165-1223) during their adventures on the Third Crusade. There was also King Edward II (1284-1327) and Piers Gaveston who were best of friends, to the point of intimacy.
Even the great William Shakespeare (1564-1616) and the composer Ludwig von Beethoven (1770-1827) were said to be bisexual.
Many of the Italian Renaissance artists were bisexual as well. This list includes Donatello (1386-1466), Leonardo da Vinci (1452-1519), Raphael (1483-1520), and Michelangelo (1475-1564). People now are even saying that Leonardo’s “Mona Lisa” was intended to be a self-portrait! This is also why Leonardo only did works on males and never actually finished a work on a female.
Joan of Arc (1412-1431) was a lesbian.
President George Washington (1732-1799) and Alexander Hamilton (1755-1804)
There are also many well-known people in the present who are open with their sexuality. There is Ellen DeGeneres, Anne Heche, Melissa Etheridge, k.d. lang, Elton John, Amy Ray and Emily Saliers of the Indigo Girls, Chastity Bono (daughter of Sonny and Cher), and Jodie Foster.
Past actors and performers such as James Dean (1931-1955), Rock Hudson (1925-1985), Charles Laughton (1889-1962), and Rudolph Valentino (1895-1926) were notorious bisexuals of their times. Janis Joplin , the talented singer, and Joan Jett were also lesbians.
Susan B. Anthony (1820-1906), the equal rights activist, and Eleanor Roosevelt are suggested to be lesbians of the past.
These are very few examples of people who loved either the same sex or both sexes.
They were amazing people who led great lives. I say we stop discriminating.
As for the ladies on this site, If a bi-sexual man does you the HONOR of being interested in you, feel flattered. These are often men of great power, dignity, beauty and talent. MEN who can have ANYONE they so desire. Feel flattered. Don't judge.
A day will come when people will no longer have to hide who they are. I will personally see to it.
[QUOTE=Getting bi in MA.]If a bi-sexual man does you the HONOR of being interested in you, feel flattered. These are often men of great power, dignity, beauty and talent. MEN who can have ANYONE they so desire. Feel flattered. [QUOTE]
DO we really have to make a list of famous successful and powerful people that are strictly straight to show that straight people can also have beauty and talent?
I'm a gay man and recently came out of a relationship with a Bi man - and have to say that it was the hardest relationship that I have every been in. His repeated lies, and attempts to manipulate were difficult enough, but having him lying in my bed whilst talking to his friends on the phone and telling them that he was on a train was just humiliating. For the first two months I knew him he even went by a completely made up name!
Still I stuck it out dispite that he slept around behind my back on a number of occassions and would phone me up at gone midnight every evening drunk and screaming abuse down the phone - but eventually it gets to the point where it doesn't matter if he is bisexual or not, its just that he is an arsehole!
The point I'm making is don't generalise on the terms of whether they are bisexual or not, ask what kind of person he is and does he want the same things as you. If you both want a trusting caring and one on one relationship thats great. If he wants an open relationship ask yourself if you can really handle that. Just at the end of the day remember that you have to look after yourself as well. Please remember that all good relationships - friendships and otherwise - need a 50/50 balance. The Good relationships are the ones that are honest, respectful and dignified.
Would I consider a relationship with a bi men again? Yes, but I would like to spend a lot of time getting to know him first - just the same as if I was dating a gay man.
Can you love a bi-sexual man if he was willing to be loving and faithful ?
yes...it wouldnt matter to me as long as he's faithful and good to me. i'd be real good to him. i dont know any guys like that, though. i know of str8 men and gay men. no bi guys anywhere !!!! i'd love to meet one....they sound fab !
I HAVE HAD SUSPICIONS THAT MY MANLY MAN WAS BI BUT IT WAS JUST CONFIRMED FOR ME. WE HAVE BEEN DATING FOR A YEAR AND I KNOW HE CARES ABOUT ME A LOT AND IS SATISFIED IN THE BEDROOM. I JUST DON'T KNOW IF I CAN LOOK TOWARD A FUTURE WITH HIM KNOWING WHAT I KNOW NOW. I WANT TO GET MARRIED ONE DAY AND I DONT KNOW IF THAT IS EVEN REALISTIC AT THIS POINT TO THINK ABOUT. IM VERY CONFUSED.
Obviously, someone can be both bisexual and completely monogamous. The fact that your man is willing to admit to being bisexual, knowing that it may complicate or even threaten your relationship, is an incredibly good sign. He wants to be open with you. He wants mutual trust. I'd lay down a few ground rules and go for it.
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