Help me out please
I wanted to find out what you think of this. Well my wife of only 2 years has been seen with another man "a co-worker" out eating lunch and sharing there food I guess my wife was giving this guy a bite of her sandwich and they was drinking from the same glass. I don't know what to think of this please give me some feedback Thanks
Maybe they're trying to save money on lunch food and beverages. However, you should confront your wife and tell her what you have heard. Get her side of the story. If she's got something going with this guy, she'll then know to be a lot more discrete and conduct her food and drink sharing where it cannot be observed.
I totally agree with Tony. You need to confront your wife. I can see if she is going to lunch with a co worker, that part is fine. But sharing food, is not appropriate. Now, you mention she has been seen with another man, a co-worker at lunch. Who has seen this guy with her at lunch?
If you are the one who has been spying on your wife, then you really need to sit yourself down and realize there is something going wrong in your marriage where you can't trust her.
If someone else has seen her with this guy, how do you know if it is the truth? Do you think that this person could be starting trouble with your marrage. WEll I think you need to give us alittle more info to this story like who told you about your wife going to lunch with a co worker and sharing food. Hope you respond to this soon. Take care.
I find it very odd that your wife would let a co-worker eat off the same plate as your wife and share food. That is kinds odd. If that did not happen I would say that your wife is just doing business with her co-worker, possibly talking about office stuff. But anyways, I would confront her. If this is something that really bothers you, I would definitly do it. But as far as your brothers roommate is concerned, tell him to get a life. He is bringing himself into this when he should really keep his mouth shut because it is probubly making you think that your wife is cheating. What you need to do is confront her, and listen to her side. I would think it would be difficult to bring up the fact that your brothers roommate seen her with the co-worker as they were sharing food. She might think that you are having him stalk her to see what she is doing at work.
This is a very tricky situation. But definitly confront her, and don't point the finger just yet. How you should approach this I don't know. But the best thing to do is to figure out if she is cheating which I strongly dought it. I think this might be now some insecurity issues on your behalf which I don't blame you because you are hearing this from your brother roommate. Who wants to hear that their wife has been sharing food with a co-worker. That part is still very odd to me. Just make sure when you bring this up, and she explains herself, that you don't sound like a jelous husband who is not trusting your wife. Because that would not go over well.
Really, I don't know what to tell you. Sure it is normal and okay for your wife to go out with co-workers to discuss business stuff but if they are sharing food. That is something that needs to be confronted. Well, I hope this has helped. Let us know what happened and what your wife has said about the matter. Take care.
Females also have different relationship veiws than guys do as well. Maybe her co worker is gay? As much as it might gross you out, I know I and many of my freinds prefer gay guys just becuase you can be close to them and not have to worry, like sharing your lunch. Or she just may be friends with him, and claimed what a good sandwich she had and offered him a bite, and maybe only one of them was drinking something. THere are plenty of different explaniations. Make sure you talk to her, but dont accuse her.
Well I talked to my wife about this, and she admited to it. She did in fact share food with him all the time I guess. She claims nothing has happened she just feels comfortable with him enough to share food. I don't know what to think she seems to have no problem with this and had no problem admiting it. So what do you guys think, I should do next?
Let me ask you this: If the roles were reversed and a friend informed your wife that you have been going out to lunches with another woman and eating the same sandwich and drinking from the same glass together what do you think her reaction would be? Do you think she would be satisfied hearing from you that you feel so comfortable with this other woman that you enjoy biting into the same sandwiches and drinking from the same glass together? I seriously doubt it. I think this is a hugh red flag.
When people do these things it may indicate a strong relationship is building and they are getting closer.
I guess I have to ask why is your wife who is married woman having one on one lunches with another man and sharing food together? Your wife would freak if the roles were reversed and I think you know it. My guess is that your wife never told you before that she was having one on one lunches with this other guy. I think this is a very bad sign and does not look good.
Its good you confronted her, because you don't want to jump to conclusions. But my wife sharing food with another man would make me nervous.
Obviously this in and of itself isn't cheating, but does she do it with other people? Does she share food with other friends?
I'm just picturing myself going to work, knowing that I'm sharing lunch with a woman. Both sitting down and then eating the same sandwich and drinking the same drink. Its just a weird situation.
Hey, thats what I said Tony! But the important thing is to let her know how it makes you feel. As I said before, women view relationships differently than men. To us, sharing a sandwich or a drink means nothing. We do it all the time with eachother, and also with other people. But once again, like I said, make sure you do let her know how it makes you feel, becuase she may not even think it may hurt you(what? guys can do things without thinking, but women cant???? )
Ok I am so mad now!!!!!! I talked to her she freely admits this? I guess thats good maybe that she didn't lie to me. She says they have ate the same sandwhich, drank from the same glass, shared a fork before. I certainly don't like this at all!!! However the woman here don't seem to find anything wrong with this correct? I know he is not gay, like somebody suggested. I am at a lost on what to do or think.
This is just a thought but she did not lie to you because she knew she got caught? Now she shares a fork with this guy? What else is she sharing?
I would be very pissed also. There is no way if the roles were reversed you wife would accept this. These are the things a boyfriend and girlfriend do when they are dating. This is unacceptable for a married woman to be doing this with another man. Something does not sound kosher here.
some people/cultures are a lot more easy-going about sharing utenils/food than Americans are. it's possible that it's no big deal to her - but then she also does it with other people, i guess? have you asked her about that?
if this is something she does ONLY with you and this co-worker, i'd be mad, too.
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What do you make of this????
But the important thing is to let her know how it makes you feel. As I said before, women view relationships differently than men. To us, sharing a sandwich or a drink means nothing. We do it all the time with eachother, and also with other people. But once again, like I said, make sure you do let her know how it makes you feel, becuase she may not even think it may hurt you(what? guys can do things without thinking, but women cant???? 
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