[CD111]

Recently, I was introduced to a new guy through a friend. My friend found out I was single and she told me about this guy. She told him about me and he looked me up through facebook. We emailed each other a few times and then exchanged numbers. I think we have many similar interests and so far our phone conversations have seemed very comfortable and we found interesting things to talk about.

Now, I have been trying to adjust my dating strategy a little bit. Instead of making myself too available or doing some of the pursuing. I would like to be pursued for a change. To clarify I am 29 and he is 35. Currently, he is on a long business trip and won't be back for another week. We have made plans to go mountain biking for next weekend. He has called me a few times when he said he would...amazing!!! I have initiated a online chat once when we both happened to be online.

It's pretty clear that he is interested in me because he is also making a good effort in trying to get to know me better through his questions. He even took pictures of minerals for me at a natural history museum and emailed them to me because he knew that I like rocks....haha..how cute.

I want to give him a call to say hi and see how his trip is going, but I am not so sure that I should. I also don't want to seem too aloof either, because I am interested in him. So I am looking for some good advice. Oh the last time we spoke on the phone was Monday night.

[Samari]

Originally Posted by CD111

Recently, I was introduced to a new guy through a friend. My friend found out I was single and she told me about this guy. She told him about me and he looked me up through facebook. We emailed each other a few times and then exchanged numbers. I think we have many similar interests and so far our phone conversations have seemed very comfortable and we found interesting things to talk about.

Now, I have been trying to adjust my dating strategy a little bit. Instead of making myself too available or doing some of the pursuing. I would like to be pursued for a change. To clarify I am 29 and he is 35. Currently, he is on a long business trip and won't be back for another week. We have made plans to go mountain biking for next weekend. He has called me a few times when he said he would...amazing!!! I have initiated a online chat once when we both happened to be online.

It's pretty clear that he is interested in me because he is also making a good effort in trying to get to know me better through his questions. He even took pictures of minerals for me at a natural history museum and emailed them to me because he knew that I like rocks....haha..how cute.

I want to give him a call to say hi and see how his trip is going, but I am not so sure that I should. I also don't want to seem too aloof either, because I am interested in him. So I am looking for some good advice. Oh the last time we spoke on the phone was Monday night.

You should call him back at the next convenient time/ASAP. I mean if he's making an effort to try and get to know you, it would be nice if you either: return the favor if you believe you are interested, or lay down the line and tell the person that you aren't interested in that manner before things get too far deep (although you said you were and I hope you wouldn't have gone this far if you weren't remotely interested). If you wait too long he may assume that you aren't that interested and may just move on. At least that is what I would do. No one likes waiting. Especially guys.

[CD111]

Well, he contacted me again via text. Just asked how I was doing. I will give him a call tomorrow. I was busy on the phone getting the internet working again for hours. I have received mixed advice from others regarding the whole "chase" thing. A few people have told me not to make myself too available. But, since he has made an effort again I will call tomorrow to see how his 4th is going. Thanks

[Island Girl]

You have initiated the chats when you are both online.
That IS showing interest.

Don't call. That is too much chasing.

Keep doing what you have been doing - it appears to be working right?

Don't try to fix what isn't broken. Don't rush it all.

You are supposed to go mountain biking when he gets back - and he texted you to see how you were doing PLUS he took those rock pics for you too.
Let him call and see how your fourth is going.
It is better if he thinks you are living your life and not obsessing about him at all.

[CD111]

Island Girl, your response was pretty much what I have heard from numerous people. He called last night, but I missed his call...oops. Yes, I totally agree I don't think it would be good for me to contact him too much.