[kassy]

Ok so I'm organising a trip away - it's just for one night - and there is 25 of us going. One of the guys going I have only met once at golf but we got on really well and I'm quite interested. We email a little bit and stuff I get the feeling he is also relatively interested.

Anyway, It's going to be a big night out when we are away. I am interested in him... but I don't know him so assuming he was also interested and we did have a bit of a kiss, how do you say no I'm not going back to your hotel room with you in a way that still lets him know that I wouldn't mind seeing him again and see how things go?

I don't want to be a cock tease and I don't want to make him think I'm not interested at all... and the line between the two would be pretty thin me thinks.

Any suggestions welcome - I'm useless at all this stuff

Thanks!

[lora22]

I don't think it's a fine line at all. If you're not ready to sleep with someone, you're not ready, and it's not your job to get him off just because he gets turned on! He can go bust a nut all on his own Happens all the time!

I think if you make out with him, he'll figure out that you're interested in him. If he's not a total scumbag, he'll respect you and your decision (probably more?) for not taking it further at this point in your "relationship."

[gopher]

As a guy, I agree with Lora.

[sugarmomma]

You just say " I like you but I'm not ready to have sex with you". See how easy that was.

Don't start worrying about pleasing him and whether he will run if you don't. If he runs let him go since it will show that he only wanted sex anyway.

You shouldn't be having sex in a casual way with him anyway with no committment for a r from him. If you give your sex away that's all you'll get in return.

If you like this guy in a r kind of way, hold onto to your goodies as long as you can and until you knows that he really likes you for YOU.

[kassy]

I agree with you all, I don't have sex with someone straight away anyway, but it's when they say they weren't expecting me to have sex with them, them but just stay over anyway that I either get persuaded or put my foot in my mouth - he's very smart and a very good talker which is a dangerous combination

I's just rather not go there with someone I didn't know pretty well - and I don't know him at the moment hardly at all. Not that I think there's anything wrong with him haha

[lora22]

Originally Posted by kassy

I agree with you all, I don't have sex with someone straight away anyway, but it's when they say they weren't expecting me to have sex with them, them but just stay over anyway that I either get persuaded or put my foot in my mouth - he's very smart and a very good talker which is a dangerous combination

Sounds like you're a smart girl - you know you don't want to have sex with him (yet at least), and you know that you're going to "give in" if you say no and he asks you to "stay over anyways." So, if that happens and he asks you to stay over, just say no. It's pretty easy. He'll still know you like him, and like I said, if he's not a complete scumbag he'll respect that.

Originally Posted by kassy

Its just rather not go there with someone I didn't know pretty well

So don't.