[everythingtolose]

Hi,
I've been cheated on and have also cheated myself. I don't trust myself that I won't cheat again. I am obsessed with a man who is not my husband. For those of you who have cheated, have you been able to stop? Do you trust yourself that you won't do it again?
Everythingtolose

[Lizzie60]

Originally Posted by everythingtolose

Hi,
I've been cheated on and have also cheated myself. I don't trust myself that I won't cheat again. I am obsessed with a man who is not my husband. For those of you who have cheated, have you been able to stop? Do you trust yourself that you won't do it again?
Everythingtolose

I have never cheated in my 2 long relationships... but I would very much understand someone saying they can't stop... once you've tasted the excitement and the rush of an A.. it's very hard to stop.

Plus, IMO, if you keep cheating on your partner, you don't really love him/her but I can see why some people stay (children, financial situation, etc)..

[AlektraClementine]

Mine won't be the most popular answer among cheaters because people who want to cheat, do. People who don't want to cheat, don't. And take measure to make SURE they don't.

First, EVERYONE experiences temptation. No one more so than the next guy/gal. It's what you do with that temptation that really counts. You could go and read a recent thread of mine if you like or just read the summary below:

I've never cheated. I had an attraction for a male friend of mine recently and came here for advice and guidance. The situation resulted in my confronting the other man. Telling him that our friendship was no longer innocent and that I could no longer continue any relationship with him. Told my fiance that I was experiencing attraction outside of the relationship and that we needed to work it out internally.

By attacking early and swiftly, I aborted any threat to my relationship. The attraction died VERY quickly after it was acknowledged. Most people will let it grow into something more significant and harder to resist.

Bottom line. If you love your mate and yourself and your integrity. Don't put yourself in situations you can't control. Point blank. No other way around it. If you're married or in a committed relationship, ACT like it.

[boldjack]

I used to, I don't any more, and I will not again.

[boldjack]

Yes, I trust myself, because I'm an adult now.

[Untouchable_Fire]

I'm with BoldJack on this.

I wont do it again, because it hits my self esteem too hard. It's like doing drugs... It feels good for a short time, but then the consequences come and you pay for it.

I know it won't happen, because now I have the guts to be honest. I think Liars are just Cowards, and I now have the strength to be brave.