[Brady_to_Moss]

Lately i have noticed that no one contacts me anymore. Eaither phone, txt or even online. Its like i dont exist yet i talk to people and have a good core group of friends. Maybe about 6 guys i am always talking to and 2 girls. I need to get more girls in the picture but just dont know how to. I am very friendly with them.Talk and even flirt now...but nothing. Nothing comes of it. I am the one now who always has to start the convo with someone becasue they wont start it with me. Its frustrating.

[loser101]

are your friends single or coupled up? couples are a bit more slack when it comes to keeping in touch and organising stuff.

there could be a number of reasons: some of your friends might be going through a phase when they are not very social, others are used to your initiating contact, maybe you like attention more than they do. maybe you pick really laid back people - the downside of that can be laziness

all sorts of reasons. people often get in touch when they want something, like arranging to do something - especially men - rather than just for a chitchat

[lino]

Originally Posted by Brady_to_Moss

Lately i have noticed that no one contacts me anymore. Eaither phone, txt or even online. Its like i dont exist yet i talk to people and have a good core group of friends. Maybe about 6 guys i am always talking to and 2 girls. I need to get more girls in the picture but just dont know how to. I am very friendly with them.Talk and even flirt now...but nothing. Nothing comes of it. I am the one now who always has to start the convo with someone becasue they wont start it with me. Its frustrating.

I'm confused, are the 6 guys and 2 girls no longer contacting you, or are the new people you meet not contacting you?

[patcha]

Yeah. I feel the same way. Sometimes people contact me to overwhelming levels, and I'll get tired. But during the times when no one contacts me at all, it can be a shot to my ego & other emotions. I'm wondering what's up?

There's never really a balance in the contact which is what I want. Let me know if you figure anything else about this or how we should cope with it. lol. Goodluck!

[carhill]

IME, consistent and long-term contact comes from real life; going out together, eating at each other's homes, sharing interests. Most of my real life friends who remain in regular contact are those with whom I have substantial emotional bonds and share mutual interests and family lives with. Personally, I think there should be an ebb and flow in such dynamics. I like it when I have quiet time and I purposely don't over-stimulate friends, especially male ones. Reading one's friends can be a fine art and getting there comes from a lifetime of mistakes.

If you want to talk with or see a friend, contact them. If you find that the only time you interact with someone is at your initiative, perhaps you should re-evaluate that friendship.

TBH, I know lots of dickheads who are quite popular; in fact very popular. They're not popular with me, but that's just one datapoint