[mr.reverb]

How can you tell if you're a sexohalic? Is it a bad thing?
I think I may be addicted because it's all I think about all the time. I see so many women and I immediately think of what it would be like to have sex with them or what they look like naked. I constantly flirt and am tempted daily to cheat. I'm able to control my urges....somewhat. I've never cheated, but I've grabbed a few buts and had some online "relationships" with various friends and co-workers.

What can be done about it and is it really that bad of a thing if I'm keeping it controlled?

[electric_sheep]

Originally Posted by mr.reverb

I've never cheated, but I've grabbed a few buts

ha!

Is this actually culturally acceptable where you live? The Italians are notorious for this, but I thought it was going out of fashion.

If you're doing this in a culturally unacceptable context, it may be a bad sign.

[gopher]

It's just a matter of time before you cheat. You are flirting with disaster.

[JamesM]

How old are you? High hormone disease affects young males. This is not the same as being addicted to sex.

[Meaplus3]

Originally Posted by mr.reverb

I think I may be addicted because it's all I think about all the time. I see so many women and I immediately think of what it would be like to have sex with them or what they look like naked.

There is nothing wrong with thinking and looking.. as long as you have NO intentions on taking action.

I constantly flirt and am tempted daily to cheat. I'm able to control my urges....somewhat. I've never cheated, but I've grabbed a few buts and had some online "relationships" with various friends and co-workers.

If your that tempted then IMO it's only a matter of time before you may act. How is your marriage? I ask this because if your having issues then this could be the reason your tempted to cheat.

Mea

[JamesM]

Okay, I took the time to look at your other posts, and I see you are 27 and with a woman for three years and have a young child.

This is obviously different than a young kid who is fantasizing about sex.

What your concern seems to be is...you use porn and want to cheat.

First, there is the strong possibility that the constant watching of porn contributes to your dissatisfaction of your wife only. You look at other women because porn reinforces that women love sex and want it all the time. You know that this is not true, yet since you see it so often you think it may be true.

Second, watching porn may contribute to the idea that your woman is not enough.

Third, looking at other women as sex objects is a result of porn. Not everyone gets that way, but it may be that you do based on what you have said.

What to do? Are you addicted?

One thing to do is quit watching porn and quit thinking of women as sex objects. Women do NOT want sex all the time. They are no different than your own woman. Unless you pay for it, women will still want some sort of commitment from you.

Seek counseling for your porn usage if it is a problem with your having a good emotional and/or sexual relationship with your woman.

You do have control over your use of porn. You can quit if you want. But the question is...do you want to quit?