I never thought I'd be in this situation

[adidadi129]

I'm in love with my friend that I've know for about 2-3 years know

we had sex but after the act it's been a week and I havent

heard from him since.

 

A little background,

He has a gf, always looked for me even when he

started dating her, had not had any sex w him ever.

His gf ends up getting pregnant and

well there will be times me and him wont talk for days.

 

So the thing is I never thought of me doing this

with anyone because I personally wouldnt like

it but since my feelings are very strong for him

I gave in to talking to him and yes we do talk about whats

going on our life but he never brought her up and I never

asked him about her because frankly I dont care much for her

because I found out she was doing shady things behind his back.

I had sex w him and even though we didnt do much just were together

for 30 minutes, I feel like I should of not done it because now

that I did it, he hasnt even messaged me at all and I know I should

not expect anything but I just hate the fact feeling used. I dont know

if he will come back a few days later or a month

BUT i WONT GIVE IN because him being like this is not what I want.

I just dont know what to do all this has me on a rollercoaster.

He doesnt really pressume his gf or her pregnancy it seems like

he's just there for her because she's having "his" baby which I still

doubt is his and since she is sometimes saying stuff like she is going

to kill herself I guess he feels committed more since he doesnt want her

doing something crazy. I know how crazy what I am in but I just cant

let him go I dont want to

[RoseVille]

He never contacted you after you had sex with him. Married, engaged, attached... doesn't matter. This guy isn't interested and is a user.

 

Please, if he comes back, don't give in.

[sandylee1]

Whether you don't like her or care for his GF isn't really the issue. The fact that he has a GF IS the issue.

 

Put it down to experience and move on. You really don't want to go down this road.

[Satu]

All you will get out of this is pain.

 

From what you say, its very clear the he loves neither his girlfriend, nor you.

 

You're not even getting crumbs.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Do you really want to be with a man who would screw around with another woman behind his pregnant girlfriend's back?!

 

Give your head a serious shake.

 

Stop trying to justify his actions and grasp at straws by dissecting his relationship looking for cracks. This guy got what he wanted from you and now he's done.

 

If you're smart, you'll chalk this up to an experience never to be repeated.

[RoseVille]

I've read your other threads/posts, and it seems you've had a crush on this guy for a long time, but weren't really even friends, true friends. Now, you've had sex, and you're hoping it "means something."

 

Unfortunately, it just means that he got laid. Nothing more.

[GirlStillStrong]

The fact that you never imagined yourself doing something like this is your own self image. What you have done is not "fallen in love with a man with a baby on the way." What you have done is allowed your feelings for someone and your desires to cause you to act in ways contrary to your own image of yourself, and doing so affects your self-esteem. To gain that self-esteem back, you are wanting to "win" him and his attentions back. You are making excuses for $&%#ing someone else's man, the father of someone else's unborn child, to rationalize your feelings. Look elsewhere for getting your needs met. Look elsewhere for getting your self-esteem back. This is not who you are and the longer you go on acting in opposition to your own beliefs about yourself in order to feel good, the more dependent you will become on the attentions of a conflicted man who cannot honor his commitments. Stop compromising yourself for some guy.