Originally Posted by bucksfan2006
Well here I go. I've never said this out loud or anything. But I'm in love with my little sister-in-law. When I got with my wife she was only 13 yrs old. Though threw the years she's grown up to be a very sexy 20 yr old. When ever she comes around she drives me nuts. She's always flirting, by hitting or just messing around and sitting right next to me. When she comes over she's always dressed to kill. So much so I have to go to bathroom and jerk off so no one see's my hard on, especially the wife. I think she's attracted to me too, but I just can't come out and ask and tell my feelings. I know it would kill my wife to find out, but her sister is so hot and everything that I want. When I have sex with my wife I think of her sister. I'm afaird one day I'll say her name instead of wifes. Please someone give advise, beacause I'm lost and I need to figure out what to do with these feelings. Before I say something to her and possibly kill my marriage and her relationship with her sister.
You will always meet someone you find attractive. This is one of the hazards of marriage. You get used to each other, start taking each other for granted and that 'spark' starts to fade.
When someone new catches your eye, it can be extremely exciting. All those old feelings flood back in and you get caught up in fantasies about getting together with that new person.
You say this sister is 'everything you want'.
What do you mean by that? Do you mean she is hot and f***able...
or that she is loyal, honest, interesting to talk to, funny, able to support your dreams and aspirations? Seems like the former is the more likely.
If the sister is flirting with you, she is showing a disregard for her sister's marriage. It is very immature and disrespectful.
I'm glad you are concerned for your marriage. You need to think about what happened for you to lose that 'connected' feeling to your wife.
I'd consider marriage counseling and I'd focus on re-establishing a tighter bond with your wife.
You need to nip the flirting thing in the bud. If the sister says something suggestive or flirty just walk away or bring up your wife in the conversation. Do not encourage this behavior.
I think if you re-focus and don't act like you're helpless, you will start to feel more in control.
There are tons of hot women in this world. You can spend your life chasing them down or you can work on your marriage.