Lila25 Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 (edited) This is my first time posting in a forum. I’m so hurt. We dated for 3 years and half, live together 2 and being married for only two months! I just found out couple days go that my husband its been watching his ex sex videos all this time (while dating, engaged and after getting married). I don’t know what to do, I feel devastated and confuse. I never expected that from him, I’m so disappointed. I feel embarrassed, humiliated and betrayed. He keeps telling me that it was an error and he doesn’t know why he was doing it. He said it was a mistake and he deleted them. I don’t know what to do, he hurt me so bad and I don’t trust him, what he did was disrespectful. Please help! with some advice or if someone have experienced this? Edited November 14, 2017 by Lila25 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 It was an "error?" A "mistake?" Like he didn't realize it was her??? He needs to do WAY better with his apologies if he wants a chance at repairing this with you! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 Absolutely, this is no mistake. I would be heartbroken if I was you... First step, he needs to delete the videos. And then, he needs to begin the process of regaining your trust. Good luck. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I really feel for you, what a horrible thing to discover. Some people just do not understand what love and trust are, and are not intelligent enough to grasp the amount of damage something like this can cause. What a fool he is if he thinks saying "it was a mistake" will fix it - and as for 'he didn't realise' - yeah right, for 3.5 years he didn't recognise his ex, (eye roll). He obviously thinks everyone else is as stupid as he is! I really don't know what to say, except that if it were me I would be so angry that I just wouldn't want him touching me. Sorry, but I really think this behaviour shows that he has no regard for your feelings, and maybe you should think hard about whether you would prefer a real man, someone who really cares for you. You deserve better, much, much better than this self-absorbed perverted jerk. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I just found out couple days go that my husband its been watching his ex sex videos all this time (while dating, engaged and after getting married). I don’t know what to do, I feel devastated and confuse. I never expected that from him, I’m so disappointed. I feel embarrassed, humiliated and betrayed. I don't think it's a big deal. It is basically just porn at this point. Unless you are bad in bed. Then this could be the sign of a serious problem. Physical chemistry issues are hard to fix. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 I don't think it's a big deal. It is basically just porn at this point. Unless you are bad in bed. Then this could be the sign of a serious problem. Physical chemistry issues are hard to fix. No way is this porn watching. It is the equivalent of a spouse saving their love letters from a previous relationship or from their AP. Get Real, please. Link to post Share on other sites
Cullenbohannon Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 Porn may be disagrreeable to some, but it isn't cheating, because it isn't personal. Viewing porn of the X is personal and a big thing. Not cool at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 This is my first time posting in a forum. I’m so hurt. We dated for 3 years and half, live together 2 and being married for only two months! I just found out couple days go that my husband its been watching his ex sex videos all this time (while dating, engaged and after getting married). I don’t know what to do, I feel devastated and confuse. I never expected that from him, I’m so disappointed. I feel embarrassed, humiliated and betrayed. He keeps telling me that it was an error and he doesn’t know why he was doing it. He said it was a mistake and he deleted them. I don’t know what to do, he hurt me so bad and I don’t trust him, what he did was disrespectful. Please help! with some advice or if someone have experienced this? Another example of not to make sex videos. Lila, tell your WH that his looking at those videos is cheating. That for the marriage to move forward that he must delete all of those videos now in front of you. Do not give him time to put them on another device before he does a "fake" deletion of the videos. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 Do not give him time to put them on another device before he does a "fake" deletion of the videos. He will have already done that. Link to post Share on other sites
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