For The Woman: Porn Issues - From a Woman

[JuStMehehe]

I have noticed many time almost all the porn issues on here are coming from woman, Now from a woman's point of view.

 

I have been always in serous relationships, maybe 2 that were not so serous, anyways with that I have went through the porn issue with one of them and until I met my current boyfriend I never understood why he liked it so much, I never understood why them, why does he have to look at this?

 

Now I am with a man that never looks at it. Now I am the one that looks at it. I never do this infront of him, Yes I love him with all that I am, Yes I would never ever want to hurt him. If he seen me doing this it would hurt him not because I am looking at someone else but because he thinks that it is "he is not good enough".

 

When it comes to having sex, making love, being passonate I do not find it really to be there and to tell the honest truth I wish I could let go on him sexually but I have fears that if I do then he will look at me as being some kind of freek. I believe that this is why many people look at it. It is a way to say that your sexuality is ok. It is a way to have your mind running sexually.

 

One question I have to the people that post there problems about porn on here, If you see that your partener is looking at it and if you can get into the webistes why not try and role play that? I mean do not go out and because freeky but slowly bring it into your sexually with your partener, I know that if mine did wow I would be very happy. It would shock me, it would smile to think of it. SO why not try that instead of bashing yourself over this. I know everyone has there inner and outter beauty, your partener is with you all for many different reasons.

 

I wish all woman one day will look at ourselves and know and see that. When I was worrying about other woman or his interest in other woman thinking that I was not good enough I looked like crap because my smile went, my happniess went , I got lost in it so far that I looked grose. Now I ma back I have been on both sides and trust me they are both real and normal parts of life. Porn is porn. love is love pls do not cnfuse it, just love your partener and if you are feeling thats what he wants then try it you might like it yourself and find a side of you that you can love also

 

Hope it all helps even just one person

 

A woman

[CoolAunt]

When it comes to having sex, making love, being passonate I do not find it really to be there and to tell the honest truth I wish I could let go on him sexually but I have fears that if I do then he will look at me as being some kind of freek.

So, you can have better sex with yourself, your fantasies, and strangers in pixels than you can with your husband? That is a very sad situation.

 

I believe that this is why many people look at it.

Could it be the cause rather than the effect? I mean, you obviously feel some guilt or shame about pornsturbating or you wouldn't keep it a secret from your husband. Perhaps because you've learned how to get freaky from watching porn, rather than learning as part of a couple with a real, live, in the flesh human such as your husband, that element of guilt/shame about pornsturbating has spilt over into your feelings about good, no holds barred sex IRL.

 

It is a way to say that your sexuality is ok. It is a way to have your mind running sexually.

That's what SEX is for!!! Not just solo sex, but sex with your husband, too!!! And of all the people in the world who you should feel good about sharing your sexuality and sexual secrets with, your husband should be that person.

 

Don't be afraid to "let go on" your husband, for crying out loud! How do you know he won't like it? Turn into Super Freak on him. Ask "would you like to try ______" or "may I _______" or "would you please ________" while you guys are making love. Or, If he's the reserved type, perhaps you talk about it with him beforehand.

 

Ya know, what would really be sad is if you one day found out that he, too, was getting funky with images of strangers without your knowledge and you two could have been getting some monkey lovin' with each other all along.

[joeymas]

Porn is an impulse. To call it anything more than that is over thinking the subject.

 

Sometimes a man or in this case a woman is feeling sexual and for what ever reason may not be able to tug her skirt up and lean over for the hubby. Maybe he is tired, maybe the kids are up may he is not home.

 

To say that this woman looks at porn as a substitute for sex with her husband is a very uneducated response.

 

I say, it's nobodies business what you do while you are alone. I feel the biggest problem that today's world faces is the fact that - Everybody is up everybody else's ass!

[FolderWife]

Ever so often when I'm horney, but I don't feel like giving a freaking blow job, and doing the bouncy bounce until hubby is finished, I'll masterbate. Sometimes, I'd rather masterbate than put the effort into sex. So I'm starting to see why hubby wants porn so much, and I think that I could accept it, but for some reason, porn rolls over into the REST of our marriage, and not just the sex part.

 

After nearly two years of marriage, I could probably deal with my husband masterbating to people having sex, and not get insecure about the women in the film.

 

BUT, my husband isn't honest about porn. He hides it from me.

 

So porn builds secrets...and sometimes blatant lies.

 

He gets MEAN to me. He's a fantastic husband, but when he's hiding with porn, he snaps at me over every little things. If I didn't do the dishes when he thought I should, if I didn't load the dishwasher the way he thought I should, if I didn't do the laundry the way he thought that I should, if I didn't sweep, if I didn't take out the trash, if I breath wrong, if I say ANYTHING, he'll take it the wrong way.

 

I can't live my life on eggshells, because he wants to watch porn. I'm not going to do that.

 

If my husband were loving, and supportive, and sexual, and watched porn less than once a week, I could handle it. But he'd watch it every day, sometimes twice a day, and then treat me really really mean, so he wouldn't have me wanting sex from him, and seeing that he has a limp noodle that won't get up.

 

Our first year of marriage was HORRIBLE. He couldn't get or keep an erection, he was really short with me, and he would say the meanest things. When I had had it, and said, "Porn or me," he promised no more porn, and we got along FANTASTIC. But, he got mean and hateful again, and two weeks later, I found porn. Then we got along great for about six months, before I found porn a week after he'd become nasty towards me again.

 

Now, it's been two months since the last sighting, and he's being a jerk again. So I'm on the lookout for a porno.

 

For some reason, porn and anger go hand in hand with my husband, and I haven't found the link yet.

[joeymas]

Well, this looks like a whole new subject. I won't defend your husbands actions but there is the outside chance that he is already in a pissed off mood before he goes for the porn.

 

When I get upset, I tend to want to be alone. I like to drift into another world and forget about my problems.

 

Could it be your husband get's stressed, decides he needs some space and then indulges?

 

Just asking. What do you think?

[yngv]

Ever so often when I'm horney, but I don't feel like giving a freaking blow job, and doing the bouncy bounce until hubby is finished, I'll masterbate. Sometimes, I'd rather masterbate than put the effort into sex. So I'm starting to see why hubby wants porn so much, and I think that I could accept it, but for some reason, porn rolls over into the REST of our marriage, and not just the sex part.

 

After nearly two years of marriage, I could probably deal with my husband masterbating to people having sex, and not get insecure about the women in the film.

 

BUT, my husband isn't honest about porn. He hides it from me.

 

So porn builds secrets...and sometimes blatant lies.

 

He gets MEAN to me. He's a fantastic husband, but when he's hiding with porn, he snaps at me over every little things. If I didn't do the dishes when he thought I should, if I didn't load the dishwasher the way he thought I should, if I didn't do the laundry the way he thought that I should, if I didn't sweep, if I didn't take out the trash, if I breath wrong, if I say ANYTHING, he'll take it the wrong way.

 

I can't live my life on eggshells, because he wants to watch porn. I'm not going to do that.

 

If my husband were loving, and supportive, and sexual, and watched porn less than once a week, I could handle it. But he'd watch it every day, sometimes twice a day, and then treat me really really mean, so he wouldn't have me wanting sex from him, and seeing that he has a limp noodle that won't get up.

 

Our first year of marriage was HORRIBLE. He couldn't get or keep an erection, he was really short with me, and he would say the meanest things. When I had had it, and said, "Porn or me," he promised no more porn, and we got along FANTASTIC. But, he got mean and hateful again, and two weeks later, I found porn. Then we got along great for about six months, before I found porn a week after he'd become nasty towards me again.

 

Now, it's been two months since the last sighting, and he's being a jerk again. So I'm on the lookout for a porno.

 

For some reason, porn and anger go hand in hand with my husband, and I haven't found the link yet.

 

Maybe your husband is actually ashamed or embarrassed by his porn watching, or how it affects his performance with you? And transfers his anger toward you? A thought from a non-professional...

[whichwayisup]

Folder's wife is gone and hasn't posted on LS in a very long time. Just so you know...