leo85kiran Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 m 23 yrs old girl n want 2 marry my bf ...he is of 25..n both love each other madly..n v both r honest towards each other but we r lacking understanding due to which v fight twice a week because v r totally different v r not similar ...he is broad minded but m not...he always thinks positive and m pessimistic. whenever he tries to guide me where i was wrong, the same moment i turn up into a pessimistic person, m very short temper girl....i knw m at big fault.......still v want to be together but our dissimilarities doesn't allow us. number of times v thought to have a break up but v failed cause v can't live apart to each other. but now its high time to be practical as sometimes we think dat, the reason of all dis is may be the one " he is in australia n m in india " may be its all because of this distance...n in future after marriage it could work better. but now at last both of us have taken a decision, to think again that is it worth to take such risk or not. but we both know that we cant spent our lives after getting married to Sumone else...... v both r in big delima....what to do??? now here question arises that " understanding is more important or love n honesty towards ur partner" ??? do we both need a councilor or we need sum space???? how could i turn up this worst situation into happy moments...i cant live without him..... Link to post Share on other sites
sabrina11 Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 You might want to rewrite that in "english." Link to post Share on other sites
voldigicam Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 Acceptance. Of self and other. No ownership. Most unhappiness appears to come from the desire to control another, especially in marriages. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 you two definitely need to get into some kind of pre-marital counseling to learn how to "mesh" your styles so that you can communicate better, because good communication is the key to success in any relationship. that said, having different outlooks (him positive, you negative) ... it doesn't really sound like there is going to be a lot of success unless you change your pessimistic outlook. Otherwise that difference in personality is going to be the death of y'alls relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
pkn06002 Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 Yes please no texting short cuts, makes it very hard to read. Think about this. Opposites attract but repel in marriage. Gets really old when you spend year after year fighting with someone fundamentally different than you. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 Marry and you vill fail. Square peg, round hole. Love is not enough to make a marriage succeed. No vay. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 Marry and you vill fail. Square peg, round hole. Love is not enough to make a marriage succeed. No vay. :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 :lmao: No, but seriously. It von't vork out. No vay. I mean do you think it vill vork out? (Ok, ok. I'll stop now.) Link to post Share on other sites
voldigicam Posted May 8, 2009 Share Posted May 8, 2009 Complementary can work. Ph.D. plus bleach blond hairdresser. That's me. Acceptance of other and self. Very important. Link to post Share on other sites
Heroic Posted May 13, 2009 Share Posted May 13, 2009 Compatability in morality, IQ and interests is key. Link to post Share on other sites
giotto Posted May 13, 2009 Share Posted May 13, 2009 lots of patience... Link to post Share on other sites
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